Give Children Space to be Conscientious Objectors

Children are not simply to submit to authorities, whether those authorities are parental or governmental. Children are made in the image of God, not the image of their parents. As a result, children have a right to decide what they believe, to determine who they want to be, and to speak up about those things [Read More…]

My Child is Afraid of Hell. What Do I Do?

Sherry asks, My youngest recently asked me if he is going to hell, he says, “I’m pretty sure I’m going to hell because I don’t really believe in God anymore.” My heart just broke. I tried to listen, wanting to reassure… I explained that God is love, period, He does not send people to hell. [Read More…]

Kids “Get” Social Justice

How do we raise kids to be advocates for social justice? This is a central value of unfundamentalist parenting, that we raise up a generation of young people who will fight for a more just world. And there are many wonderful resources out there to equip parents, but as I’ve said before, parenting is often not [Read More…]

Is Your Personal Relationship with God a Dysfunctional One?

I was raised to believe what sets Christianity apart from other religions is how God is a personable God. God is all-powerful but One who is accessible. I can still sing the familiar chorus without skipping a beat, God knows my name, God knows my every thought, God sees each tear that falls, And God [Read More…]

It’s Time to Speak Out Against Corporal Punishment

More and more, churches are waking up to the reality of child abuse in their communities. We see this as increasingly larger numbers of churches implement child protection policies. As important as such child protection policies are, however, they are all too often myopically focused on child sexual abuse. Other forms of abuse, such as physical abuse, [Read More…]

I’m Bad! Rewriting Fundamentalist Beliefs of Depravity

Our best conversations usually happen around the dinner table. Between bites of mac and cheese and chicken nuggets (or whatever “adult” food I’m attempting to get my children to swallow), we try our best to enter into conversation. Sometimes, we go around the table and say what we’re thankful for, because giving thanks really is [Read More…]

Six Ways to Teach Children without Gas Lighting

Image: Unsplash Gas lighting is a term to describe psychological manipulation inflicted on a victim to make them question their perception of reality. The term stems from a 1938 stage play, Gas Light, in which a husband dims the lights in the house, and when the wife accurately points out the fact, he convinces her [Read More…]

Feminist Dad Gives Best Advice to his Daughter

A boy asks a girl out in sixth grade. She texts her Dad for advice and the conversation is as follows: Too many things to love about this. First, can we take a moment to appreciate how cool it is the daughter’s first impulse is to ask her Dad for advice about a boy? And then, BEFORE [Read More…]

Why Your Children do NOT Need Apologetics

I grew up with Josh McDowell and Lee Strobel teaching me how to “be prepared to make a defense to anyone who asks you for a reason for the hope,” first Peter three fifteen. It seems to me hope should not require so much effort to defend, but who am I to argue with a [Read More…]

Children Are Not Angels

This is a view that I only see in progressive Christian circles. According to some progressives, children are born as angels—innocent, pure creatures. That can mean one or both of two things: that children are born unaware or unshaped by human imperfection or that children are born unaffected by the human experience. Basically, children are [Read More…]