Midterms and Catastrophic Thinking

A couple days ago, I read a great blog by Adele Calhoun, An Invitation from God:  Healing from Catastrophic Thinking.  It came at the perfect time, because it’s high school midterm week and my daughter’s living my recurring nightmare.  The one where I forgot to attend math class all term and have to take the final.  Or the history nightmare where, I also forgot to read all the books.In the seconds I’m capable of reason, I know her situation isn’t close to my nightmare. &n … [Read more...]

Am I my Greatest Love of All?

Last night, along with the parents of 400 other students, we attended the middle school Choral Concert–not because we have a child who sings in a chorus, but because my 6th grade son was picked to accompany the chorales on some sort of percussive gourd thing.For one song.The second to last song no less.Earlier in the day, my 8th grade daughter told me she wanted to go because she had listened to her friends practice.  She had been surprised by how many songs were explicitly C … [Read more...]

Thai Squash Soup

As always, not a short of my soup, but this is what it lookslike--this cook garnished the soup with toasted coconutI'm feeling so inspired by my new ability to post recipes that I can't resist sharing this one, that I made for dinner tonight.  It's a delicious, fairly nutritious (depends on whether you think coconut milk is good or bad for you) squash soup that's tangy, creamy and exploding with flavor.I found this recipe somewhere online, and then combined it with another.  The first … [Read more...]

Just Dance!

For our first Christmas, I bought Scott a quilt and 2 quilt shams.  He opened them and said something like, "Gee, it's nice you bought yourself a present!"Have I said before that I don't have the love language of gift-giving?  I certainly wasn't sure he'd like the quilt, but I didn't think he'd so totally reject it.  After all, it was for our marital bed and I thought guys were really into the significance of that bed. . .Ever since, our family regularly refers … [Read more...]

Recipe Index And Portuguese Bean Soup

For months now, ever since I used Word Press to publish the Boston Faculty Fellowship website (I don't know how to create websites.  I do know how to blog.  Hence a blog as a website!) I've bemoaned that I couldn't create separate pages on blogspot.I really needed separate pages so I could index the recipes I publish.  I'm not sure any of you care about my recipes, but I do, and I wanted a quick way to find them!So lo and behold, I happened to look on the toolbar yesterday, and … [Read more...]

Reflections on Tiger Moms, a year later

Years ago, my Indian-American friend, the mother of a toddler, said she wanted her daughter to grow up knowing herself, her own desires and experiencing a secure identity rather than the foreboding that the only way she could ever succeed in life was to be a doctor.“Yeah. . .” I said, trying to sound healthy and wise.  Pause.  “But I also want my kids to be smart.”She laughed because she knew.She knew academic achievement was the #1 god in my family growing up.  OK, maybe … [Read more...]


Happy New Year!  I haven't blogged much because 1) I've been on vacation and 2) I've been binging.  Not on all the treats that've surrounded me the past month but on young adult novels.It started right before Christmas when Kai-Kai raved about Sarah Dessen books. She gave me a list she wanted for Christmas. "That won't happen." I said."Why?????""Because you know I don't believe in buying books--order them from the library." So she did, and brought me her favorite The Truth About … [Read more...]

New Year’s Transformations instead of Resolutions

With trepidation I stepped on the scale this morning and sure enough, learned that I’ve gained 4 pounds in the past five days.  That’s what I get for feasting with 33 of my relatives over Christmas as we celebrated my uncle and aunt’s 50th wedding anniversary.Like so many others, my New Year’s resolutions should include losing 10 lbs and exercising more in 2012.  Yet after spending 5 days with 3 generations ranging in age from 7 months to 79, I’m struck by how much more than New Ye … [Read more...]