My sense is that we were created to love each other not kill, hate, hurt, or act self critical of ourselves and others. Most things are geared toward the biggest extreme. When love is brought up as a way of being, it is quickly put into a box, tagged , and labeled as weird, or we tried that in the seventies. Which is funny! Because the love that I am speaking of is far greater than the conditional reaction to life. Yes reaction. Love has been turned into a holiday, conditional relationships, procession, and yet love it is none of those things. Love is profoundly accepting of now. Plan and simple. In that acceptance, one can choose correctly and rightly. The acceptance is the love. The moment we can’t accept something that is happening, or has happened we create a dramatic story, chaos, blame, complain, or even hurt.
We maybe can re-look at the old paradigm of love and re-name it acceptance. With acceptance comes compassion, kindness, alertness, safety, wisdom, and deep appreciation of what is now. We should really just turn to our loved ones and say “I accept you” and give up the words “I love you”. Because most of the time that kind of love wants, expects, needs, or controls the other. Can you imagine everyone saying “I accept you”. The type of love we talk about, glamorize, celebrate is really hate in disguise. And hate kills. It kills the spirit, the heart, you, and the other person. How is it hate in disguise? The moment the expectation, need, perfection, control, or want isn’t met then it leads to a tantrum or what we would call hate. So really it isn’t love we crave, because by craving love, we crave love and hate. What we really crave is acceptance.
Test this out and see for yourself. Say in the mirror, ‘I accept you”. Now use “I love you”. Does love give you a lift of energy that is imagined in your mind of what love is or could be? Acceptance is neutral, calm, grounded, and even powerful. Enjoy the accepting.