Nearly every day someone asks me: Is it really possible for me to have my deepest desires and dreams? My answer is always: ABSOLUTELY. The following ten tenets when absorbed and applied will shift the trajectory of your dreams and life. Make them yours. 1. You are enough. The starting point for any successful journey is to know that by your very existence you are enough. There is nothing you must become, change, earn, or deserve. 2. The past does not equal... Read more
92% of resolutions fail within two weeks. It doesn’t make the most sense to plan and prepare for an entire year of your life during the busy-ness of the holidays. It takes time to reflect, digest, and sift the good from last year. It also takes time to clean up and clear out our mental and physical environment. Both of these things are vital to creating a solid foundation that will support and our goals. Once you’ve done this,... Read more
This week, I’ve received a plethora of questions about forgiveness. People have asked: What is forgiveness? Why should I forgive? Doesn’t it let the other person off? What’s in it for me? How do I forgive? and the biggie: How can I forgive myself? Forgiveness is a vital part of living your best life. Without it you could squander your whole life away in agony or resentment. No one should live this way. I wrote about forgiveness in... Read more
We’re all pretty aware of the common suggestions for increasing inner peace and reducing stress: exercise, meditate, eat well, and get enough sleep—all fantastic and vital aspects of well-being. But, there’s so much more we can do to support ourselves. Here are my top 3 unexpected tips for creating inner-peace. 1. Optimize your vitamin D levels. ***I’m not a doctor, but I did graduate from law school, check everything contained in this email with your doctor.*** A team of doctors from... Read more
Have you ever had an experience where life bends over backward to get you to grow? I’m experiencing this now. I’m super-analytical, logical, and grounded. When challenged, I think, and think, and then think some more. I futurize and foresee every possible outcome, often in ways that feel like they’re happening in the present. I challenge the experts, second guess authority, and review every decision the professionals make. I take control and endeavor to create the outcome I desire using... Read more
Every challenge presents an opportunity to forgive. If you refuse this opportunity, you continue to suffer and keep the pain alive. It’s common for decades old injuries to bleed fresh when you’re carrying the burden of unforgiveness. Who suffers most from the anger, pain, or resentment you feel? You, always you. Forgiveness benefits the forgiver and has little to do with the one forgiven. It may feel as though your sustained upset punishes the perpetrator, or validates the wrong. It... Read more
My last journey through crisis was messy. I was blindsided, and up until then I’d managed most of my life with two qualities: logic and action. Both were of very little use at the bedside of an ailing life-partner. Logic didn’t help the hole in my center, and no action could retrieve the past. It went into a tail-spin of frenetic anxiety, grief, and despair, which only amplified the terror of the time. Months later, I began to grasp... Read more
On a personal note... A couple of months ago, my mother was rushed to the hospital in an ambulance—just like my then husband, over a decade ago. She presented with a variety of neurological deficits—just as my husband did. During this time, she’s been in the same hospital that I watched the man and life I loved disappear into the twisted quagmire of neurological illnesses. I know this path. I’ve died on it once already. My ex’s experience was absolutely devastating... Read more
Most spiritual and religious people agree that God is within us. “Neither shall they say, Lo here! or, lo there! for, behold, the kingdom of God is within you.”~Luke 17:21 “If you search for God within you, with all earnestness, you will surely be able to find him.”~Sai Baba Gita “You are of God, little children, and have overcome them, because He who is in you is greater than he who is in the world.”~John 4:4 “Turn thy sight unto... Read more
At the end of your life, will you be satisfied and content with how you’ve lived? The bad news is that unless you discover and abide by your heart’s desires, the answer will likely be no. The good news is that you’re alive and it’s not too late to create a regret-free life. Earlier this year, I had the absolute honor of interviewing Bronnie Ware, the author of The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying. It was one of the... Read more
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