6 Things I want my Future Daughter-in-Law to Know: An Open Letter

6 Things I want my Future Daughter-in-Law to Know: An Open Letter April 23, 2015



Dear Future Daughter-in-Law,

Wherever you are in the world, I want you to know that I can’t wait to meet you, and you are already loved by our family.

From the moment our son was born, we not only prayed for him, but we prayed specifically for you.  We know that God has amazing plans in store for both of you someday.  As we all patiently wait for that glorious day you two walk down the aisle, your father-in-law and I want you to know a few things:

1.  When you marry our son, you will be more than an “in-law”; you will be our DAUGHTER.

We firmly believe that when two people fall in love and join each other in a marriage covenant that two truly become ONE.  You will instantly become not only our son’s precious wife but our daughter too.  We don’t see you as just a girl who is legally  wedded to our son; we see you as his chosen beautiful bride for life.

Genesis 2:22-23 (NLT)

22 Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib, and he brought her to the man.

23 “At last!” the man exclaimed.

“This one is bone from my bone,
and flesh from my flesh!
She will be called ‘woman,’
because she was taken from ‘man.’”

2. We support you in your autonomy as a couple.

To put this plainly, I want to resist being “all up in your business”.  When you two marry, you become your own family.  Your father-in-law and I want to support you two wholeheartedly in any way we can, but we also want to respect your privacy and have healthy boundaries in place.  I promise we will call before we come over and try to only offer advice when you ask for it.

Genesis 2:24 (NLT)

24 This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.

3.  We want to be a blessing to you!

More than anything, we want to bless you and our son as much as we possibly can.  God has so graciously blessed us with the two of you, and we want to be a blessing right back.  In-laws get such a negative stigma sometimes, but we don’t want to be that stereotype at all.  We are for you all, not against you!  You can come to us for anything.

1 Chronicles 17:27 (NLT)

27 And now, it has pleased you to bless the house of your servant, so that it will continue forever before you. For when you grant a blessing, O Lord, it is an eternal blessing!”

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