April 16, 2024

Let’s be honest: Conversations (or blogs!) about sex can seem embarrassing or vulnerable. And yet, for married couples, our research has found that talking about sex clearly matters. In fact, in the largest nationally representative study ever conducted with married couples about sex – which grew into a book I coauthored with Dr. Michael Sytsma called Secrets of Sex & Marriage – we found that a full 73% of couples don’t talk about sex well, Mostly because it's too awkward or difficult. Read more

April 9, 2024

Money. Conflict. Those two words are paired a lot more often than most of us would like, right? Well, it doesn’t have to be that way! Let’s continue our case study of Amanda and Joseph and his infamous VR gaming set purchase that collided with her saving and timing goals. (If you didn’t catch Part 1, you’ll want to briefly read it to familiarize yourself with our case study.) Read more

April 2, 2024

This is a two-part series on how to view money as a source of connection instead of conflict. In Part 1, we’ll look at how to honor each other’s values and communicate with curiosity.  Amanda, a young twenty-something woman I was talking to, was a saver. With her aim set on setting aside money to furnish her first apartment, manage her new car payment, and pay off student loans, let’s just say there wasn’t any room in her financial expectations... Read more

March 28, 2024

God wants us to have a sense of hope even if we don’t get the outcome we want! This is Hope with a capital H. It is God’s fuel for our lives, and it is available to you and me. I can almost hear the next question. How do I find that kind of hope? I searched scripture and science for answers to this question, and I’ve compiled what I found into my brand new 60-day devotional  . Its pages combine Biblical wisdom and inspiration with practical, doable habits that cultivate Capital-H Hope – the kind that sustains us through hard times and in dark places. Here’s a sneak peek into three of the book’s ten hope-building habits. Read more

March 21, 2024

Hi friends! To adjust the lyrics from the old Rodgers & Hammerstein song, spring is bustin’ out all over –at least where I’m living in the South! Since the last What I’m Loving Lately was August of 2023, I’m in the mood to play hooky from the blog for a week and do something fun. Here are five things I’m loving lately, from #5 to #1. (And #1 is a doozy!!) Read more

March 12, 2024

What I discovered is what I hope you do, too: that contentment is available to our families no matter what stage of parenting we’re in and what is on our calendar. Here are some practical tips to recapture the lost art of just doing nothing.  Read more

March 5, 2024

In our For Men Only research, we found that fully 82% of women have an underlying insecurity about whether their men really love them. And here’s the key: this is not necessarily because of you but because of a question that is common in the heart of most women: Am I lovable?  Read more

February 27, 2024

We hope this will help you understand what makes your wife tick, and help you love her in ways that actually make her feel loved.  Read more

February 20, 2024

As wives, we have the sacred privilege of realizing how tender our husbands’ hearts really are. (Just as they do with us.) So even if your man projects confidence, it’s crucial to know that on the inside, most men regularly feel real self-doubt. They question themselves as a husband and as a father: 76% of men in my nationally representative survey confessed they are not as confident as they look.  Read more

February 13, 2024

This is the first part of a multi-part series on what our spouses need, but may not always articulate. This week and next, we are focusing on husbands. After that, we’ll focus on wives. You read the headline, and you’re pretty sure you know the answer. Sex, right? Yes, sexual intimacy does make list of what husbands are longing for in their relationship with their wives. But the nationally representative research for my bestselling book For Women Only – and... Read more

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