What I Love #1: You read to improve yourself–not the other person.
I can’t tell you how big a deal this is. Most of my fellow relationship authors are constantly inundated by emails asking, essentially, “How can I fix my spouse?”
It is so understandable, so tempting for all of us to focus on, “How can I get my wife to stop doing this?” “How can I convince my husband to handle the kids that way?” “What can I do to change my mother-in-law’s criticism on such-and-such?”
It is so tempting. And yet absolutely futile. By contrast, most of you embrace the truth that the only person you can change is you. You read to understand what you can do. You fight the natural tendency to focus on the faults of the other person and focus on your own actions.
My other author friends are wondering if I can I lend you out to them!
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