Provide input carefully, with assurance that you trust him fully.
You have to make a choice. And I’ll warn you up front: it might not seem “fair” to you. But you have to choose what’s more important: ensuring that your husband knows you’re unswervingly behind him and believe in him, so he knows you care about him? Or exercising your right to speak into his professional life?
This isn’t to say that Choice #1 means you can’t have any input. But be prepared to do it in a very, very judicious way, with explicit affirmations that you believe in him at the same time. If you do that, you’re ultimately giving him what every man most needs: the absolute and accurate knowledge that when it comes right down to it, you do trust him in the way you say you do. And that’s a good plan for success as partners in life, for life.
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Shaunti Feldhahn loves sharing eye-opening information that helps people thrive in life and relationships. She herself started out with a Harvard graduate degree and Wall Street credentials but no clue about life. After an unexpected shift into relationship research for average people like her, she now is a popular speaker and author of best-selling books about men, women and relationships. (Including For Women Only, For Men Only, and the groundbreaking The Good News About Marriage).
Her latest book, Find Rest: A Women’s Devotional for Lasting Peace in Busy Life, focuses on a journey to rest even with life’s constant demands.
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