Why Teenage Boys Should Be Courageous and Ask the Girl Out!

You approaching her builds a habit of courage—instead of a habit of passivity

One of the things I hear often from women in hurting marriages is despair, pain or anger about the fact that their husband has checked out, become passive, backed off. This is not the place to get into all the reasons why, but it is clear that this is one of the temptations of guys these days. And it happens among high schoolers too. You may have noticed that if you just wait, girls will text you about going out or about joining the group for coffee. You may have noticed that if you are slow in leading the class presentation, someone else will take it over and do more of the work. It can become a dangerous temptation.

Now, that may not be you at all. But some guys tell me that they are subconsciously thinking, If I just wait, someone else will do it for me and I won’t risk doing it wrong / being rejected / feeling stupid. It sure is easier.

But giving in to that temptation means building a habit of being passive. Sitting back and seeing whether someone else will take action instead. To build yourself as a person and as a leader, it is so crucial instead to take steps of courage—like approaching that girl you like (in person rather than over text!) and asking her to do something over the weekend.