Why Teenage Boys Should Be Courageous and Ask the Girl Out!

Now is your chance to practice—and build confidence.

Guys, this is your opportunity to practice. I know it’s scary. But if you don’t practice, it’s only going to make you more nervous. The more you think about anything that’s difficult to do, the larger it looms in your mind, right? And the more you delay and overthink it, that challenging thing can take on proportions so big that it starts to seem impossible.

But the good news is that once you take that step, you’ll get more accomplished at it. It is almost like putting in the work to build muscles. It can take work, can sometimes be painful, and can take time before you see results—but in the end you’re glad you’ve done it.

Yes, you could get turned down. Be okay with that. And if it happens, resolve in advance to learn from it (maybe ask an older, wiser guy what you could have done differently, if anything), and try again. Focus on the successes rather than the failures. And as you build the confidence needed to ask a girl out by actually doing it, you develop one of the qualities that women find most attractive.

So guys, here’s the challenge for you: take the step. Think of a girl that you like, that you admire, that you are probably already friends with in some way, and that you want to spend time with and get to know better. Then invite her to do something with you—go bowling, go to a football game, grab a bite after practice or rehearsal, go for a walk.

As you gain (and exhibit) that genuine, underlying confidence, girls will be even more interested and more likely to say yes. It’s a cycle of good things, a cycle of maturity. It’s part of becoming the kind of man that you want to be.

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