Going from “You” and “Me” to “We”

Unity Builder #3: Allow for individuality, even as you resist independence

Thankfully, although an independent mindset can pull spouses apart, allowing for each partner’s individualitycan bring you closer together. People simply value different things. We discovered that the happiest couples tend to allocate a monthly amount of money that each can spend on whatever they want, without checking in the other person. With this method, if one wants to spend a “ridiculous” amount on gifts or the other wants to avoid making lunch and regularly eat out instead, they can.