Once you see this for yourself—you can help your spouse see it too!
We all know we can only change ourselves. But if we’re being super honest, most of us have wished we could change our spouse! “I wish he realized how much that bothers me.” “If she really cared about me, she wouldn’t ____.” And so on.
Thankfully, having our eyes opened to all these truths also gives us ways to talk about them with our spouse. Once we’ve worked on ourselves, and on interacting with our spouse in the way they need, most of the time our spouse is feeling so much more cared for that they are also much more open to learning new things themselves!