Mindset shift #1: Know you are not “missing out”
While creating the Find Balance bible study I found that many of us struggle with accepting and making choices that work for our life season because we fear missing out on other options. Yes, FOMO is real! In fact … it is as old as the garden of Eden.
At the very beginning, the serpent tempted Eve in the garden in the exact same way he tempts us today. He points at the one thing God asks us to say no to, and whispers in our ears: You’re missing something. God is withholding something. The grass is greener over there. Just try it. You don’t want to miss out, do you?
So what do we do with that? We remind ourselves that fear (including FOMO!) is always driven out by one thing—God’s perfect love. We remember that God’s heart for us is good. That just as in the garden of Eden, He has surrounded us with vast abundance that He wants us to enjoy! It changes everything when we realize that, by creating seasons and designing us for them, God is not trying to keep us boxed in and missing out. He’s trying to ensure that we thrive!
If we bow to His ways, we’ll discover we’re not missing something, we’re finding something!! All that vast abundance He has for us—especially peace, rest, and joy.
Thus, making that proactive (and sometimes hard) choice (see Part 2) is not just a choice against something—it is a choice for something. We may be flattered to be asked to serve on a leadership team at church. But if we sense the Holy Spirit redirecting our efforts to spend more time with our spouse, we can joyfully say no to the church invitation knowing the Lord is not asking us to “miss out” on a good thing—rather He’s inviting us to another really good thing. A strong marriage!
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