Do: Surprise your spouse once in a while!
This is a key way to keep things fresh: put a note in your phone calendar to surprise your spouse with something enjoyable and unexpected.
In a recent staff meeting, one of my team members said her husband would be stunned if she asked him to shoot hoops. “Pickleball, yes. Basketball? He would fall over.” Everyone on the team kind of raised their eyebrows, as if daring her to do it.
“At least challenge him to a game of H-O-R-S-E,” one of them said.
I hope she does it. A dash of the unpredictable can up the excitement ante in any marriage.
So, wives, if your man likes to watch football, make his team’s next game a big occasion – with team napkins, hotdogs, his favorite chips and dip, TV trays, etc. And guys, if you know she needs a quiet moment away from the chaos, take her to the seating area by the river with stale bread for the ducks and a Bluetooth speaker ready to play some of her favorite music.
In doing these things, you’ll signal to your spouse, “What you like and need matters to me.”
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