Are You “Falling Out of Love” … or is it Burnout?

Stage 3: Feelings of failure

Finally, burnout brings feelings of failure. Dr. Maslach calls this “reduced feelings of personal accomplishment.” When you’re running on empty and notice yourself pulling back, it’s common to feel failure and shame. You’re aware that you’re not living up to your own ideals, and that can lead to a downward spiral of self-doubt and despair.

Now, when I think about the couples who told me they’d fallen out of love, I see a different picture. Most likely, they were emotionally exhausted, had begun to withdraw from the relationship, and were feeling a profound sense of defeat.

The good news is that if you or someone you know is dealing with marital burnout, there’s hope. We are growing in our understanding of burnout, and, as a result, we are able to share clear steps to address it. Here are three essential strategies for fighting marital burnout: