Step #4: Let him know you believe in him.
In the daily things of life, let your man know you’re on his side! Instead of accidentally sending a signal that he’s not good enough, look for daily ways to assume the best in him and show him appreciation.
This can be as easy as saying two words. According to our research, most men are powerfully impacted by simply hearing “thank you.” But there are plenty of related phrases that fill his heart and that he can’t hear enough:
- Thank you for tucking the kids into bed. You’re such a good dad.
- I’m proud of you for how you solved that crisis at work.
- It means so much to me that you work so hard to provide for us. I know things at work have been rough recently, and I really, really appreciate it.
One final word: if you can find authentic moments to share thoughts like these in public, your man’s chest size may grow two inches. Knowing that you believe in him—and you’re willing to put that out there to friends or co-workers—will go farther than you can imagine.
I hope you see, maybe for the first time, that your man is probably the farthest thing from fragile or over-sensitive. It’s just that that strong and capable man you love is the most open and vulnerable to words of care or criticism from one person in his life: you.
If you found the content in this two-part blog series helpful, I unpack these principles and dozens of others in much greater detail in my books For Women Only: What You Need to Know About the Inner Lives of Men and For Men Only: A Straightforward Guide to the Inner Lives of Women. Pick up copies and talk through them together. You’ll be glad you did!
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