7 Questions for Christians (and everyone else) to Ask When You’re Feeling Angry

7 Questions for Christians (and everyone else) to Ask When You’re Feeling Angry January 6, 2023

Unmasking the Inner Critic Andrew Lang
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Fun fact: I spend a lot of time with consistent low-level anger.

It usually has one of two targets:

  1. myself, which is always pretty fun to deal with, or
  2. institutions, which typically comes across as critique and a desire to change everything.

This anger is, at times, extremely beneficial.

But at other times, not so much.

In figuring out what to do with it and how to direct it, I’ve developed a list of questions I come back to again and again.

Here they are, in roughly the order I use them:

  1. Where in my body am I holding the tension of this anger?
  2. What am I trying to control right now?
  3. What story or belief system of mine is underneath what I’m currently experiencing?
  4. What is my anger attempting to protect me from?
  5. How is my anger perpetuating harm, to myself or others?
  6. How might this anger give way or give energy to personal and communal healing?
  7. What supports and kindness do I need right now?

Hope this resonates with some of you fellow-angerers!


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About Andrew Lang
Andrew Lang is an educator in the Pacific Northwest, an alumnus of Richard Rohr’s Living School for Action and Contemplation, and author of Unmasking the Inner Critic: Lessons for Living an Unconstricted Life. Along with writing regularly, he facilitates workshops helping people to navigate their inner lives and explore their sense of identity and spirituality. You can read more about the author here.
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