A Letter to Liberal Single Moms

A Letter to Liberal Single Moms September 17, 2012

Dear Single Moms,

A new Gallup study shows that there’s a marriage gap in the Presidential race.  Married people tend be conservative, while singles tend to be liberal.  If you’re a single mom supporting Obama, then please don’t believe these media myths:

1.    Conservatives will judge you and hate you because your family doesn’t fit the ideal stereotype:

Well, I’m living proof that this isn’t the case. I wish Tripp had both a mom and a dad in the same house, but he doesn’t. Conservatives have always treated me kindly and lovingly.  If you look at the comments section of any of my blog posts, you will see that liberals are the ones who call me every name in the book.

2.    The government will take better care of you than you can take care of yourself.

Everyone needs help in life.  A lot of single moms have it pretty tough.  But no one knows better what’s best for you and the kids than you do.  One of the worst parts of government help is government control. It limits your chances for you and your kids to succeed.

3.    Conservatism is a men-only-club.

There are many wonderful conservative women role models.  In fact, I think my mom is the best example!

I know how hard it is to be a single mom, but please don’t fall for these media myths.  Be a strong, conservative, single mom!  There are more of us than you think.

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  • Keri Norton

    Well said Bristol. Although I am a married mom of four (two on earth and two in heaven); I fully stand beside the single moms I know and try to be an encouragement. It is a hard enough job when you’re married and can only imagine the challenges that arise for single moms. And yes, your mother is a great example for all women liberal and conservative. God bless you and give you wisdom as you raise Tripp.

  • Great post, Bristol! Keep saying it – you’ve got the platform for it. I was a single Mom myself many years ago and had lots of caring love from many family and Church friends.

  • Ian


    Those are fantastic rebuts!! They’re sitting there thinking that single moms don’t have the ability to think for themselves. *NEWS FLASH* They’re WRONG! Conservative Single Moms are better equipped and smarter because they don’t need the government.


  • john

    excellent keep up the good blogs so many clueless people out there are being clowned daily by lamestream media high time for people to take the time and research things for them selves and wake up before the country as we new it disappears .

  • James

    1. Conservatives will judge you and hate you because your family doesn’t fit the ideal stereotype:
    Fact- Conservatives will judge you and hate you if you don’t think exactly like they do. Conservatives will make you feel like your family is less than if it doesn’t meet their idea of what a “perfect” family is. They will say to your face that they love you, all the while working behind your back to make sure that your family will never have the same rights as their family does.
    2. The government will take better care of you than you can take care of yourself.
    Liberals don’t believe this and liberals don’t say this. This is a lie conservatives tell to misrepresent liberal thinking.
    3. Conservatism is a men-only-club.
    When conservatives spend more time on jobs bills than on bills that limit the rights of women then you might have something to say here. But for now, conservatives have done nothing recently except show that they want to control women. Women don’t need men telling them what they should or should not do, they are strong, intelligent beings and can figure it out all by themselves.

    Just wanted to clear up some of your misrepresentations again.
    Liberals are not evil Bristol, they don’t want to control you. They just don’t want you controlling them. Let people live the way they want to.

    • Gilly

      Well said James!

  • Melissa Cameron

    This is great! I’m not a mother, but I do go to a very liberal school. People here say that any woman voting for the Romney/Ryan ticket is “an absolute idiot.” It takes all my will not to debate them. I don’t want to render myself friendless though.

    • James

      I think you should engage in the debate, you might learn something you didn’t know. You can debate without being mean, and if they are your friends then you shouldn’t have to hide your identity from them. I have conservative friends and we debate, I usually win and convert them with logic, but the ones that don’t we still remain friends.

  • charli chad

    The truth. Thank you 🙂

  • Reallynow

    What an absolute PANT LOAD!!

  • Cathie

    Great post, Bristol! I raised two kids on my own (with the support of my faith in God and my family) and they turned out to be great kids. I am as conservative as you can get. Without the help of anything from the government, I put my kids through private schools and provided for all their needs. I am living proof that it CAN be done!

    Thanks for all you do, Bristol! You are an inspiration to me!

  • Reallynow

    You will be treated like you treat others Bristol. In many of your blog posts, you pit liberals against conservatives. You make us feel that you and your religous Conservative Bretheren are in someway BETTER than the rest of us. You make us believe that a hand up is a hand out and therefore bad. You preach Bristol, plain and simple. You cannot, like Mitt Romney, really understand the lives of most poor people, single mothers or otherwise. You will always have the comfort of money in the bank or parents that can help you out in emergencies. You will never have to worry about putting food on the table, clothes on your son’s back, housing in safe areas, good schools for your kids, trasnportation, a job that will pay you enough to keep you just living. IF you did, you would understand that sometimes government is necessary. People like your mother and Mitt Romney would cut programs that give people a hand up. A hand up that would help them on the path to independence. Try to be less preachy and less divisive and you will create much less negativity on your blog.

    • James

      Her mom can’t see it… I don’t think Bristol will either.

  • Jessika Gonzalez

    Hey Bristol,
    I just want to let you know that you find treatment like that in every part of your life. Whether it is in a political party, a racial community or even in your own home. I notice that when I watch your show, that your mother treats you with more regard than she treats your sister Willow. You are the one that is getting your mom more political and media attention than your sister is. So she does more things for you so you can help keep her in the spot light. Does that mean that the type of mother that Sarah is to you is a better type of mother than she is to your sister Willow? I think not! That is just how life is. I am of Mexican/America decent. When I go down to visit my family in Mexico, I get a lot of discrimination because I am American. When I am her in Arizona, I get a lot of discrimination because I am Mexican. Should I just lump ALL Mexicans as racists because of the opinion of a few? Should I just lump all Americans as racists because of an ignorant Sheriff? I think not. Just because at this point in life, you get better treatment from conservatives, does not mean that they are any better than liberals. It just means that conservatives really like your mom because she represents them and they want to stay on her good side. Had it not been for your mother and her political power/affiliations, believe you me, you would have been branded with a Scarlet Letter when you were 17 for being pregnant with that beautiful little boy. We are all going to face adversity in our lives. Unfortunately, because of who your mother is, you are going to face more than regular people. Ask Chelsea Clinton what she went through as a teen. I personally feel horrible for you and all the things you had to endure as a teenager and all the things you still have to endure as a beautiful, intelligent young lady just because your mother was brave enough to stand up for her convictions and beliefs and go national with them. You did not deserve that from anybody. Your private life is your own. However, since your mom chose to go public with hers and tried to make a career out of you, you got the backlash of the hand that she was dealt. Now, as a young lady, you are making your own views an opinions know. You have decided that you also want to go public with your views, beliefs and opinions. When you decide to do this, you have opened yourself up to be judged, criticized or loved by the whole world. But just like high school, there are more opinionated, vicious people out there than there are nice, whether they are Conservatives or Liberals or those who don’t identify with either. I myself and a Liberal and I hate what people and the media say about you. I think that you are an intelligent, beautiful young woman. You are strong and independent. From what I see, you are a great mother to Tripp and you are doing a good job raising him. I don’t care for his dead beat father to much, but I love the MAN that Gino is trying to be for you and your son. I just ask that you have an open mind to people and individuals, and not judge them for what you think the represent. Be they White, Black, Hispanic, Straight, Gay, Lower class, Middle class, Upper class, Republican, Democrat, Christian, Non-Christian, American, Non-America and everything in between. There is good and bad in all distinctions. Look for the good, stand up against the bad and be the best Citizen/Daughter/Mother that you are capable of being.

  • Dave

    Well said Bristol, keep doing what you are doing. Don’t let the negative idiots get you down.

  • (from my own post pointing to this one… am trying again because the site told me I was posting too often even though I haven’t been here for at least a couple weeks…) We hear a lot about how the Democrat Party has worked diligently over the decades to 1) keep a large contingent of the population depended on the State, rather than on family, community, etc. …and… 2) keep reminding voters that if Republicans win elections, all that State assistance will go away because Republicans Hate You! In this regard, the statistics and anecdotes are usually centered on minorities and income levels — but were you aware that included in their agenda (again, for DECADES) is an effort to foster BROKEN FAMILIES? How on earth would they do that? Well, consider all that has been done through pop psychology to denegrate the worth of the family, all that has been excercised by ‘mental health professionals’ to minimize the known positive influence of nuclear families, the efforts of the media to make every husband on TV and the big screen into a raging buffoon, the hard work that the self-agrandizing Feminist Movement has done to inform men that they are no longer wanted/needed/appreciated — how long do you think it took for those efforts to impact little boys as they are growing up? The little boys who eventually grew up to be your boyfriend/ex-husband/friend with benefits — who was wholly bereft of the qualities necessary not just to be a good Father to your child — but being totally unprepared and DISINTERESTED in growing up to be the Man that you could be glad to have in your life. Instead, both Mommies and Daddies can now look to the State to be the adult — and our children will be raised by ‘babysitters’, now that the government has (by judicial degree) begun to inform parents that they have LESS RIGHTS to determine how their children are raised than those who squeezed them out like little writhing watermelons.

  • Gilly

    Trust me Bristol if you were a nobody the conservatives at your church would be trashing you behind your back and calling you “every name in the book”. Only an elitist living in a bubble would not know this to be true.

    • Lori

      to Gilly: I disagree with what you’ve said here. I am a conservative, fundamental Independant Baptist. I have known a number of single moms through the years, known them through church. They have been treated with love and compassion, just as the Lord would have us treat each other.

  • bellagrazi

    Right on, Bristol! Keep preachin’ it!

  • Azaria

    The idea that conservative single moms are better than liberal single moms because they don’t rely on the government is utter nonsense. When I was eighteen I had a baby to take care of, was working full time, and was receiving government assistance. I was receiving government assistance because my salary of $14,00 a year wasn’t nearly enough money to take care of myself and my baby. I was not lazy. I was not a “freeloader”. I was working extremely hard to try to provide a better life for my child. Luckily, when I was 20 I was offered a full scholarship to college which I gladly accepted. I have since graduated and found a much better job that offers a much better salary. I am no longer receiving government assistance. If it weren’t for the government giving me money during those tough couple of years, I don’t know where I would be right now. When every private charity and church had slammed the door in my face it was the government that reached out to help. It did not “limit my chances to succeed”, as you put it Bristol. It helped me get out of a terrible situation.

    • Rae

      Your comment made too much sense for Bristol and her followers to understand. You can’t teach someone who is unwilling to learn.

  • Kevin ray

    Just a note to liberal moms out there. If you love your families, vote conservative. Obama is a wolf in sheeps clothing, please study his background before your vote for the man a second time.

    • Gilly

      Kevin this only applies to mom’s not in the 47%. If you do fall into that category Mitt Romney said he doesn’t care about you because you don’t take personal responsibility nor care about your life. Remember that when you vote.

  • Joseph

    Great post, Bristol!

  • Rae

    And once again, the uneducated, holier-than-thou, self-important idiot fails to grasp not only the fact that a person is not defined by their political alliance, but also how government works. You would be singing a different tune if you weren’t born into privilege. Most single moms, regardless of political affiliation, work harder in one day than you will ever work in your life, yet still depend on government aid because you can’t raise a child on minimum wage. Your ignorance and lack of compassion for those who are suffering is absolutely revolting. I bet you’re thinking that this is from one of those liberals who you love degrading in every blog post, but think again.
    — A conservative

    • traci

      A person is not defined by how government works! Born into privilege? Who? Sarah nor Todd were born into it. Their children were not born into it! They were hard WORKING parents like millions of others. You are not a conservative-nice try though!

      • Rae

        Just because I’m not an extremist doesn’t mean that I’m not a conservative. Just because I don’t agree with Bristol Palin doesn’t mean that I’m not a conservative. I’m all for smaller government, however, I have the common sense to realize that some people truly do need government aid in certain situations. I get that there are some people who are at the bottom and can only pull themselves up to the top by so far. Bristol also insinuates that the government is forcing welfare on single moms, which is ridiculous.
        I did not say that a person is defined by how government works. I said that Ms. Palin did not understand how government works in this country, and that she also does not understand that a person is not defined by their political party/affiliation.
        Bristol was born into privilege. She has been wealthy since she was a teen thanks to who her mother is. If her parents were not Sarah and Todd Palin, and if she had been born into adversity, she would not be a millionaire, she would not have been granted the privilege of writing a book, she would not be competing twice on DWTS, she would not have been given a TV show, she would not have been paid $263,000 to make a commercial, and she would not have been forgiven for having a child out of wedlock as easily as she was. She would be just another struggling, ridiculed young mom relying on welfare and WIC, like so many others. The thing that disgusts me so much about her is that she (and many of her fans) believe that she earned everything she has on her own, and that everyone else can do the same! I was born into a wealthy family too, but at least I realize that I did not earn what I have. My family earned it and I was simply lucky enough to be born into it. I, at least, have the compassion and decency to not look down on those who have less than I do. Bristol fails miserably at this.

        • Yo Gabba

          That is quite a chip on your shoulder Rae. You speak of compassion and family, yet you spout anger and hatred toward another. When the fact is only they know what they have done to be where they are today. Your point will never be heard by anyone if it comes out with daggers. If you speak of compassion, do not speak of it with anger and hate. They cancel each other out and make you look foolish.

  • Tony

    Obama 2012!!

  • MiddleRoader

    I think most single Moms, liberal or conservatives, will vote for whichever candidate because of his views on the economy, jobs, foreign policy, etc. , not because of the “media myths”. But here’s my thougths on the “myths”:
    1) Conservatives will hate or judge you– They may not hate, but many will judge. Ann Coulter said in 2009 that Bristol should give her baby up for adoption or marry the father. Rick Santorum on how to stay out of poverty: “Work. Graduate from high school. And get married before you have children.” (Statistically, he’s right.) He made much stronger statements against single mothers in 1994, but I’m going to cut him some slack and not repeat them here, since it was almost 20 yrs. ago. And in the “actions speak louder than words” department, Michelle Bachmann proposed a tax break for “family formation,” effectively taxing single mothers more than married ones. On the other hand, Bay Buchanan said that being a single Mom made her a better one (although she added that conservatives in particular failed single mothers). And I’m sure there are some liberals out there who judge single Moms as well.
    2. The government will take better care of you than you can take care of yourself — That’s true… except when it’s not. If you haven’t graduated from high school, if you can’t get a job that pays for child care costs, if you don’t have a supportive family, if you have a physical or emotional illness, if you’re an addict, if your child has special needs, then maybe you and your kids need some help from the government, at least temporarily. And I don’t even get her comment about government limiting choice.
    3. There are many conservative female role models.– Of course!! There are many liberal ones too. How does that affect whom a single Mom should vote for?

  • AFS

    Maybe if you weren’t born into privilege you would be singing a different tune Bristol. Just some facts:
    1) GOP are against aid to the poor, food stamps, and helping single mothers. Just look at the Ryan plan that would completely cut the social safety net. Without these programs single moms would be out on the streets in no time, or see their kids go hungry because conservatives outlawed food stamps.
    2) GOP is against raising minimum wage. Single mothers working alone on minimum wage cannot feed their kids.
    Thus, GOP is against single moms, period.

  • Shirley clark

    God bless you, Bristol. You are a great role model. Loved you on DWTS. Love your mom too. Two beautiful women!!!

  • Lisa

    Totally agree with Rae’s post. Whilst we don’t have to dislike or denigrate Bristol, let’s acknowledge the facts. Earnings: $260000 from Candies Foundation in one year for reading abstinence speeches a few times (did she even write those?), $50000 for announcing an engagement tackily through a mag (not at all opportunistic/strategized), $150000 signing fee for DWTS – $50000 per episode thereafter (no audition process necessary unlike ‘Idol’ whose participants Sarah Palin loved to put down when all they were doing was trying for their chance at the American Dream)etc. What an advantageous start for a single mother. Most people have to put in hours of labor at an hourly rate to provide for their children no matter what their profession. So to all those who say she’s such a great PROVIDER and has EARNED her wealth, I’d love to know how you logically get to that conclusion.

    • Kari

      So bash her for her success. That’s a typical liberal. How sad…

  • Mike

    I think being born into a supportive, loving, caring family has more to do with anything rather than being born into priviledge. As far as receiving payment for her different ventures, I think it’s actually pretty smart. If they’re paying why not take it. Let he who is without sin, cast the first stone.

  • Our society is labeled as a period of economic problems. This specific truth has switched situations to an almost impossible era to exist in, especially for unmarried parents. But nevertheless, it might turn out to be controllable due to financial aid that is supplied. However, a noticeable truth to be stated here is that a significant portion of this allocated federal loans is mostly left rarely used. This issue mostly happens as a result of unawareness of unmarried moms for these kinds of applications, and they usually are not aware of the exact process to apply. In order to acquire grants, unmarried mothers ought to mention the state they’re living in, their earnings as well as the basis for the financial help before applying.

  • WakeUpAmerica

    So getting married lowers your IQ? Who knew?

  • Tootie

    Yes, and many times people who want abortion on demand are really wanting to continue a life of fornication. They don’t a child to get in the way of their lifestyle.

  • Jeff

    Love this! Espesh number 3. Condi Rice is a fantastic role model for everyone.

  • Jeff

    Also. Nikki Haley, Susana Martinez, Kelly Ayotte, Margaret Thatcher, etc. 🙂