I started watching the new Netflix series “Bridgerton.” Let it be known that I become feverishly addicted to all of Shonda Rhimes productions, and this one doesn’t disappoint. Interestingly, there was a scene that made me recall a blog I recently read on this forum. The article was entitled “My Wife is NOT My Best Friend.” I remember reading it and thinking about how unfortunate it is for a married couple to not view one another as their best friend.... Read more
If I reflect on the past year and all the things I have learned from my relationships, I will say that the most blatant growing pain has come from learning this very simple truth: Your partner should not do the thing you claim they should do, under any circumstances. Now, I am not talking about taking the garbage out, swirling his lips to the left while he’s between your legs, or taking his turn with dishes, bathing the kids, or... Read more
The memes that float around that claim there are “two types of people” are the most useless and fallacious memes out there. You know what I am talking about, right? “Ladies, there are only two types of men…” “Men, there are only two types of women…” “There are two types of people in the world…” “There are two choices for your relationship…” “There are two paths in life…” “There are only empaths and narcissists in the world…” “There are good... Read more
It’s easy to diminish and insult problematic prescriptions found in the various beliefs and practices that influence Christian views of sexuality. I mean, it’s easy. The purity culture of America has created deep wounds in the collective flesh. A lot of collective healing is in-process as a result of ideologies that encouraged the use of shame and guilt tactics to undermine and control generations of people. So, it’s easy to quickly dismiss these practices and beliefs. One could type thousands... Read more
More and more people seem to awaken to the idea that part of our purpose in life is to find a way to liberate ourselves from the “false-self.” I recall the words of Eckhart Tolle and Richard Rohr, by their countless works, almost seducing me toward a similar idea. A mental liberation from the woes within. I am reminded of the countless stories I have been able to hear or read about that reveal individual experiences of what a journey... Read more
I was recently working with a client who sought out a way to better understand his sexual desires. Mainly, he wanted to know why he always thought about sex. It was on his mind constantly. Everything made him want it. Sure, his age could be a contributor to his incessant thoughts—remember when we were young and wanted sex all the time? And surely, the fact that he was in a new, sexual relationship could also be the case. At the... Read more
I cannot be the only one who sees what is taking place. Everything has turned to politics and people applaud that notion. Am I one of the few who finds that to be utterly disgusting? Remember when we were young, and we thought the political talk was just the most boring thing ever? Why are so many addicted to it? I am flabbergasted at the number of teens and adolescents that are addicted to this shit-show. Teens are actually having... Read more
Many people would insist that infidelity harms more than just the couple involved. And to a certain degree, I would agree. If there are children involved, the turmoil can distort how they see relationships. However, from my own experience, it doesn’t have to impact children negatively. It all depends on how it is received. From there, unfaithfulness affects the couple and the couple alone. Any circumference of the impact that extends past the couple and children involved is simply irrelevant.... Read more
If the idea of having sex stresses you out, upsets you, makes you feel self-conscious or insecure, or makes you feel anxious, panicked, or filled with worry; isn’t it time that you explored why? When I first started embarking on my fervent rejection of organized religion, I struggled immensely with how I saw myself as a sexual being. Mainly because I came to realize that I was one! I went too long in my life failing... Read more
I do believe the nature of God is sexual. I believe the erotic component of theology has been missing for too long and it’s time that an injection is welcomed. We are sexually suffering as a society and I think that the way to make amends for the suffering is by reclaiming the erotic nature of God and learning to implement that attribute into every component of our lives. We first do that by acknowledging and accepting that we are... Read more
Danielle Kingstrom
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