People don’t usually set out to sabotage their marriage and wind up in divorce court, but small choices can ultimately lead to big disasters. Subtle poor choices along the way can pile up like a snowball rolling down a hill until it’s big enough to start an avalanche of consequences. Below are 10 of the most common ways people can harm their marriage (sometimes without even realizing it). Avoid these and you’ll be safeguarding your marriage.
(In no particular order):
1.Giving criticism instead of encouragement.
Your words have the power to build up your spouse or tear him/her down. When our words take on a negative tone, our marriage will take on a negative tone. Choose to be your spouse’s biggest encourager; not his/her biggest critic. Don’t nag, correct, criticize, insult or use sarcasm in a negative tone. Build each other up.
2. Digital distractions.
Sometimes I give my iPhone more attention than I give my wife, and that can’t happen! Do your best to keep screens turned off as much as possible when you’re together with your spouse. Talking with your spouse is always better than texting with somebody else (or playing Candy Crush, or checking facebook, etc.).
#3 has been one of the biggest struggles to overcome in my own marriage…