When Your Spouse Disappoints You

1. Instead of focusing only on what he/she did WRONG, remember all the things he/she has done RIGHT over the years.

This might sound like a cliche, but it’s practical and powerful. Whatever we choose to focus on starts seeming bigger than everything else. When you only focus on the offense, that is ALL you’ll see. That’s all you’ll think about and you’t be able to look at your spouse without instantly thinking of what he/she did to hurt you. Instead, remind yourself of all the good moments. Remind yourself of all the love and laughter over the years. It will help you keep the pain you’re feeling in proper context and not give it too much control over you.

#2 might be the hardest part of the process, but it also may be the MOST important...