UNDER THE SPREADING CHESTNUT TREE: If I’m understanding this thing from Disputations correctly (apologies for broken block-quotes)–

“Moreover, in each of our earthly sins we create a spiritual sin that is of a piece with Satan’s fall. When I sin, I am in a certain way joining with and endorsing the devil’s fall. Which is to say (if what happens in heaven happens on earth) that I am joining with and endorsing all the evil, moral and natural, that we experience in this life. War, famine, disease, death: it’s all a small price to pay for me not helping my wife fold laundry.”

–then every time we sin, we’re complicit, specifically, in the suffering of those we love. In every sin, we’re saying, “Do it to Julia!”

This particular acre of metaphysics isn’t my field; but the post was striking to me, so I figured I’d throw this thought out there for your comments.