HOME IS ANYWHERE YOU HANG YOUR HEAD:

For instance, nineteen-year-old Christina says, “Oh, yeah, my dad had failed as a father, but he was my father. He loved me, and it’s been very hard for me to try to build a relationship with him. I want to have a relationship with him, because you only get one dad. Even if your mom remarries, to a certain extent you only get one dad.”

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(I don’t think even adults really experience marriage as a “pure,” free choice–nor should they. But even so, the difference between their choices and the terrified, dependent, sorry choices of the children are pretty notable.)