Service to the neighbor may also take on a shape very hard to fit into the limits and constraints of society–a love akin to what Daniel Day Williams has called Franciscan love or what Gene Outka has described in discussing love as self-sacrifice. Such a love, because it seeks its own no more than Christ did, breaks through all the normal forms of life in society. Free of all claims to power, privilege, and possession–free even of all desires except the one overmastering desire to follow Christ–this type of Christian lover goes out in search of his neighbor.
–Gilbert Meilaender, Friendship: A Study in Theological Ethics