“The tiger can’t change his spots. No, wait, he did! Good for him!”
Seriously, sit with that one for a moment and see if it doesn’t bring you down!
The other day I was thinking about that old line, “How many therapists does it take to change a light bulb? Just one, but the light bulb has to really want to change.” It’s true enough, but insufficient. The light bulb also has to be able to imagine that change is possible. You can want real bad to fly, but it won’t happen until you can imagine an airplane.
So don’t blame the people around you who aren’t changing when and how they need to. It isn’t always a lack of desire or a lack of a sense of urgency.
ETA: This is the THIRD TIME I have tried to post this. IDEK. SORRY.