You have seen the news: The president of a ultra-conservative Christian university resigns because of a torrid voyeur threesome relationship with his wife and another man; the Christian Texas lawmaker who argued against allowing two women, together for thirty years, to marry, while in the midst of his own 5th marriage. I could go on. Really, I could go on and on and on and on. Forgive me, but sometimes I just have to laugh. I mean, really.
Maybe we all have secrets. But there are many people committed to transparency and authenticity and humility. Certainly not these people.
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Blindness to their own hypocrisy is pretty common among those who are non-affirming.
I’m not here to make fun of anybody, really I’m not. But this is ridiculous. The pot calling the kettle black. As my daughter would say… cray cray.
I am not here to be snarky. I just want to point out that this is yet more evidence that the fundamental, behavior-focused, us vs. them, non-affirming, religious mindset does NOT produce life.
Rules never do.
Relationship brings life.
I remind you of this because every day I hear from people who cannot grasp the idea of just letting go of their fight against LGBTQ people, against full LGBTQ equality — because they are so committed to this particular thing.
Nevermind the sexual scandals. Nevermind the fifth marriages. And let me be clear that these are relevant only because these people have put themselves in a position to complain against other people’s loving marriages. If you live in a glass house, well, you know to be cautious about throwing stones.
It’s time to admit that people pick and choose about who is in and who is out. It’s time to stop pretending that this is about your morals or your Bible or your convictions. It’s not.
Non-acceptance of gays is not about God, Jesus, or the Bible, not in the least. Don’t let anyone tell you it is.
If you don’t condone same-sex marriage, don’t have one. If you’re not having a same-sex marriage, then keep your concerns to your own marriage.
If you simply have a gut-level aversion to anything LGBTQ-related — just admit it.
Given the amount of rhetoric that was pumped out in the culture via Jerry Falwell and the Moral Majority in the 70s, and continues today through Falwell Jr, James Dobson, Pat Robertson, Franklin Graham, and others, an aversion to anything LGBTQ-related is not surprising.
That aversion was the point of the rhetoric.
Admit that you don’t like it, that you don’t know why (no, it’s not those misinterpreted falsely-taught Bible verses), and then we can go from there. You can begin to work on that aversion in yourself, after you admit it’s there.
Admitting it is the first step.
There are plenty of things to hate legitimately: human trafficking, poverty and homelessness, social injustice, rampant bullying.
Set your sights on making a difference where it’s really needed.
It’s time to let this one go.
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