The Ultimate Question: What If You’re Wrong??

Are we so terrified of an angry God that we choose to err of the side of judging a person instead of loving them? Unfortunately, the answer is "yes" for much of the church. And it is destroying the lives of people and entire families - many of whom we call brothers and sisters in Christ.What if it is wrong to condemn same-sex relationships?  What if it is wrong to affirm same-sex relationships?"What if you're wrong?" It is an important question, and for those on both sides of the i … [Read more...]

My Easter Sunday with Jen Hatmaker and Her Downtown Friends

What would Jesus do on Easter Sunday? As I stood under the bridge in downtown Austin, a man balancing his hamburger, chips, and a drink walked straight to me. “Will you hold my cigarette?” For a nanosecond I processed the request, then I carefully took his lighted cigarette which freed him to reshuffle his food and drink.Jen Hatmaker, next to me, kindly guided him to a place at the table where others were eating. I followed. After a little flurry to get him settled, Jen turned and took the ci … [Read more...]

Would You Rather Have a Gay Child or a Dead Child?

I am sorry if the title of this post shocks you, or strikes you as harsh or over-dramatic. But honestly, parents don’t realize what they’re asking of their LGBTQI kids. And they don't realize what their rejection is doing to them.This is not about inclusion. This is a matter of life and death.By making their children stick to their own expectations and standards for them — whether they really think their gay child is going to hell or honestly are just ashamed of them — parents are asking … [Read more...]

Christians, Here’s Why You Don’t Have to be Afraid to Support Gays

"Prejudices are breaking down. Walls are breaking down. Pastors are rethinking their entrenched positions. Parents are choosing their child over learned doctrine that doesn't reconcile with their lived experience or with the heart of God."I wanted to share this, from a Mom who is part of my private Facebook support group for Moms of LGBTQI children. I'm pretty sure there are a lot of moms -- and dads -- who feel the same way. Being only two years into this journey with my son, I still once … [Read more...]

To Christian Parents of LGBTQI Children

"You want to shove those words back in and put the lid on. But you can't. Your child is gay. This goes against everything you've been taught. It was not what you had in mind, and you instantly wonder where you went wrong."When you become a parent, you know to expect the unexpected. But for many Christian parents, nothing can prepare them to hear that their beloved child is gay. This is the child you have cradled, spoon fed mashed bananas, and dreamed a beautiful future for. How could this … [Read more...]

Can You Tell Which Woman is Transgender? And Why Does it Matter?

With all this conversation about who we pee next to, I wondered if you could tell who was actually a transgender woman. Can you spot her? Can you tell? Do you care?Unfortunately, many seem to care, and have responded with fear-mongering and vicious lies, trying to make this about the safety of our children.Honestly, they should be ashamed of themselves.Anyone who takes an authentic look at this knows there is no connection whatever between transgender people and pedophilia. Most … [Read more...]

Transgender & Bathrooms: Who Are The Ones Who Really Need Protecting?

What do you when the bully in a school is the teacher? What impact does it have on a child’s life when those he thought were there to protect him, turn out to be the biggest threat?J.D.’s mom, Shawna DiCintio, recalls J.D. as a happy, carefree kid, an up-and-coming advocate for youth, a leader determined to bring acceptance and awareness to LGBTQI youth. She was a competitive cheerleader who trained 12 hours a week and dreamed of going to worlds. Although J.D., then openly gay, was bullied a … [Read more...]

You Had Me at Hello… My Advice to Adele

She was so upset. Almost to the point of tears. And nearly an hour later, you could still see the shame on her face. But why?Her voice. Her beauty. Her charm. She plays to sold-out stadiums. She delights her fans and moves people to tears. I am simply mesmerized as I watch her—including her outstanding performance last week on the Grammys.But as she started the tribute to the late George Michael, something was wrong, it wasn’t quite on, she had missed the key. After several measures, she … [Read more...]

“You must obey!” It’s One of the Biggest Lies in the Church

One of the biggest lies perpetrated throughout Christendom is that God is primarily interested in our obedience. Not true. Patently false.To say our first responsibility to God is to obey is a big fat lie and distortion of the relationship God wants with us. God’s paramount interest in us is a relationship. Didn’t Jesus say simply, “Follow me!”?How quickly we complicate things by adding cherry-picked list of right and wrong behavior and focus our attention on that. By the way, focusing on … [Read more...]

We Have A Secret Weapon Hidden in the Anti-Gay Church!

Shhhhh. We have a secret weapon. Powerful. Effective. Ready to change the world. And it is hidden right in the middle of the nonaffirming conservative, evangelical church.There is a wall, erected by Christian leaders who are nonaffirming, between the church and people who just so happen to be LGBTQI. Their teachings have encouraged or at least justified kicking LGBTQI children of their homes, removing their LGBTQI brothers and sisters out of churches, conveying an unBiblical, unChristlike … [Read more...]