You Can Hear Susan Whispering… “God loves you exactly as you are. Quit being afraid.”


When you hear Cyndi Lauper leaning into the microphone and practically shouting the chorus to “True Colors” you know why her song raced to #1 on the Billboard Charts. “I see your true colors shining through. I see your true colors shining through, and that’s why I love you.”Now let’s hope that Susan Cottrell’s new book, True Colors: Celebrating the Truth and Beauty of the Real You, races to the top of the Bestseller Lists. Why? Because Susan, the mother of five children including two LGBTQ da … [Read more...]

A Pope Like Jesus

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“I prefer a Church which is bruised, hurting and dirty because it has been out on the streets, rather than a Church which is unhealthy from being confined and from clinging to its own security.” Pope FrancisI love this Pope. Love him. Because he loves God and loves people—the Christian’s prime directive. Because he serves people—the call of the Christian. Because he sacrifices his own privilege and comfort for the underprivileged and uncomfortable.I want to talk to you today about a perso … [Read more...]

If You Could See Yourself Through God’s Eyes

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I wish you could see yourself as the true and loving God sees you. I wish you could, for just a moment, see yourself through those eyes. Because you would see yourself as lovely, and whole, and complete. You would see that you lack nothing. You are beautiful, you are full of love.God loves you exactly as you are. God is also generous that way—God wants the best for you.Beloved, please, do not look at yourself as flawed—back up a bit. Ask God to show you who you really are. Because you are … [Read more...]

Look at What This Dad Does For His Daughter


Sometimes it takes a lot of words, sometimes it takes a few, sometimes it just takes an action. Doing something for someone you love. Having a heart for the hurting.Today, I want you to know that you deserve to be accepted for who you are, period.No matter what you have been told, no matter what you have heard, don't let anything or anyone shame you.That is not truth. That is not life. That is not love.That is evil.I found a little story and video clip that contain a message … [Read more...]

Celebrating the Truth and Beauty of the Real You

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When Clay told his parents he was gay, they screamed that he never should have been born and told him to get out of the house. He was sixteen.Vanessa listened to the gay-bashing every week in church—no one knew she was one of those the pastor was bashing. To escape the spiritual assault, she had to give up her lifelong church community... and possibly her family.How do you prepare for that?Danielle was in heels and a short skirt when I met her at my transgender friend’s birthday par … [Read more...]

From a Mom… Why I Want to Celebrate Your True Colors


When our daughter first came out to us, we had a problem on our hands. Our conservative church tradition does not allow what they would call “gayness.” What do we do with this? Do we talk about our gay daughter? Do we pretend she is not gay? Pretend she doesn’t exist? None of it fit with the abiding life of Christ. We were in trouble.That’s how I learned the depths of the dilemma so many, evangelical, or fundamentalist parents face when someone they love comes out.That’s how I also learne … [Read more...]

How Can Anti-Gay Christians Ignore the Heart of God?


To ignore or minimize others’ suffering goes against the very heart of the gospel that non-affirming Christians claim to uphold even as they denigrate those they disagree with.“Love God and love others.”“Treat others as you want to be treated.”“Love is patient, kind, and forbearing.”How can non-affirming Christians continue to ignore that?I want to share with you the story of a man who lives in New York City. He is successful, married, in love, and planning a family.Oh, … [Read more...]

Politics, Religion, and the Great Lie of Martyrdom


Kim Davis is not a martyr. She is more like the bus driver than Rosa Parks.Can a waitress take a paycheck for working at Red Lobster and then refuse to serve shellfish? Can a member of the military take a paycheck from the government and then say they will not fight? Can Kim Davis take a paycheck to issue marriage licenses and then pick and choose who she will and won’t do that job for? The answer to all three is no.And it is the right answer.Her refusal to issue a license to gay c … [Read more...]

The Church Is Changing. Are You Ready?

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The church is changing. The truth of Jesus is being disentangled from the behavior-focused, non-affirming religion that often just uses Jesus as a mascot.And this is a major threat to the box-church that tries to stay sealed up tight - even when everyone on the outside of the box can see how different they are from the Jesus they claim to follow.The truth of God is winning out over false interpretations and our understanding of what Christianity really should be is rapidly morphing into … [Read more...]

What Happens When A Heart Is Freed?

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Parents, their LGBTQ children, the church... what happens when their hearts are freed from hate and condemnation and fear?For a parent of an LGBTQ child, their heart is freed when they can unconditionally love, accept and affirm their child without feeling that they have sacrificed their faith.For someone who is LGBTQ, their heart is freed when they come to know in the deepest places of their soul that they are absolutely unconditionally loved by God, as they are, for who they are. And … [Read more...]