Margaret Court’s Outdated Game With the LGBTQI Community

Margaret Court was the name in Women’s Tennis. She was the best in the world. She set records. The Australian Open’s Court Arena bears her name. But her game is sadly out of date. She would not have even a teensy-weensy chance against the 100th ranked player today, let alone Serena.Not. A. Chance.Bless her heart. I admire her tennis—for the day she played it. Today it’s anachronistic; that is, it’s out of the sequence of time. It’s old, out-of-date, quaint. No one should fault her for tha … [Read more...]

A Father’s Plea to Christian Dads of LGBTQI Children

Seven years ago, my daughter came out. I love her. Nothing will ever change that. Nothing. I stand with her. I defend her. I believe in her. I protect her.And my life's work is now to advocate for her and for all those in the LGBTQI community.Maybe you have a gay son, or a lesbian daughter, or a bisexual, transgender or queer child. And maybe this is not what you hoped for—what you dreamed of. But regardless of the labels placed on our kids by others, they are still our children and t … [Read more...]

Wonder Woman, Parents, & the LGBTQI Community!

Diana. Wonder Woman! Just saw the movie, and I kept thinking about you. I will share a few pieces here—no spoilers—to convey how I feel about you and the defense we’re engaged in for the lives of the defenseless, for the lives of our children. It doesn’t stop until all of us are free. “It’s our sacred duty to defend the world. And it is what I’m going to do.” - Wonder Woman. When I started FreedHearts four years ago, I had no plan! My mission was to speak up for those who were being decimated b … [Read more...]

An Unclaimed Body – the Last Victim of Pulse. Where is the Love?

At a time when a parent weeps uncontrollably, mourning the death of their precious child, what would possibly drive a father to refuse to claim the dead body of his son? Oh wait, he told us: the son was gay.Where is the love?Is the middle of the unspeakable pain of losing your child to a senseless act of hate and violence, you have to plan a funeral. What would possibly cause a church to refuse to allow you to hold the memorial service there? Oh wait, they told us: the victim was … [Read more...]

How To Parent an LGBTQI (or Any) Child

Today’s my girls’ birthday, my lovely youngest daughter. She moves to LA tomorrow. Onward toward her music career.How the years fly and in the end, and when those kids soar off to their own adventures, we are left to wave and wish them joy and peace and life.What do you wish you had done differently as a parent? What do you wish your parents had done differently?Love. That is what a wise older woman told me she would want to do again: let them know how much she loves them. And let the … [Read more...]

The Ultimate Question: What If You’re Wrong??

Are we so terrified of an angry God that we choose to err of the side of judging a person instead of loving them? Unfortunately, the answer is "yes" for much of the church. And it is destroying the lives of people and entire families - many of whom we call brothers and sisters in Christ.What if it is wrong to condemn same-sex relationships?  What if it is wrong to affirm same-sex relationships?"What if you're wrong?" It is an important question, and for those on both sides of the i … [Read more...]

My Easter Sunday with Jen Hatmaker and Her Downtown Friends

What would Jesus do on Easter Sunday? As I stood under the bridge in downtown Austin, a man balancing his hamburger, chips, and a drink walked straight to me. “Will you hold my cigarette?” For a nanosecond I processed the request, then I carefully took his lighted cigarette which freed him to reshuffle his food and drink.Jen Hatmaker, next to me, kindly guided him to a place at the table where others were eating. I followed. After a little flurry to get him settled, Jen turned and took the ci … [Read more...]

Would You Rather Have a Gay Child or a Dead Child?

I am sorry if the title of this post shocks you, or strikes you as harsh or over-dramatic. But honestly, parents don’t realize what they’re asking of their LGBTQI kids. And they don't realize what their rejection is doing to them.This is not about inclusion. This is a matter of life and death.By making their children stick to their own expectations and standards for them — whether they really think their gay child is going to hell or honestly are just ashamed of them — parents are asking … [Read more...]

Christians, Here’s Why You Don’t Have to be Afraid to Support Gays

"Prejudices are breaking down. Walls are breaking down. Pastors are rethinking their entrenched positions. Parents are choosing their child over learned doctrine that doesn't reconcile with their lived experience or with the heart of God."I wanted to share this, from a Mom who is part of my private Facebook support group for Moms of LGBTQI children. I'm pretty sure there are a lot of moms -- and dads -- who feel the same way. Being only two years into this journey with my son, I still once … [Read more...]

To Christian Parents of LGBTQI Children

"You want to shove those words back in and put the lid on. But you can't. Your child is gay. This goes against everything you've been taught. It was not what you had in mind, and you instantly wonder where you went wrong."When you become a parent, you know to expect the unexpected. But for many Christian parents, nothing can prepare them to hear that their beloved child is gay. This is the child you have cradled, spoon fed mashed bananas, and dreamed a beautiful future for. How could this … [Read more...]