40 Real Answers to your 40 Questions. To Kevin DeYoung & The Gospel Coalition


“If I get the choice between Pie Heaven and Regular Heaven, I will choose Pie Heaven. It may be a trick, but if not, mmmm, pie!!” – Deep Thoughts with Jack Handy, SNLMany people saw a post that appeared on The Gospel Coalition asking us 40 questions about LGBTQ and gay marriage. One of those people was a family member who sent it to me asking me to answer.I imagine a lot of you have had questions like this posed to you  - so I thought it would be a great idea to share my answers here. … [Read more...]

A Peace Offering to Evangelicals Who Opposed Marriage Equality


You may be struggling. We see it with comments and posts on social media, with hurtful arguments between friends. You prayed this would never happen. You can’t believe it did. It is not the way you think the world should be, and it goes against how you read the Bible. This post is for you.While I rejoice with those who are rejoicing, my Mama’s heart goes out to those who are hurt, angry, stunned, who prayed this would never happen, and who are desperately disappointed. It’s okay that you’re s … [Read more...]

What Does It Look Like To Love Someone?


Look at that face! Tao Porchon-Lynch is 96-years old and brought the house down with her ballroom dancing recently on America’s Got Talent. She has been an actress and model, she teaches yoga, and she only started dancing at 85.Her joy and grace as she danced won the audience and the judges. In short, they loved her. Listening to her, you get a sense that she loved them too, indeed, that she loves all everybody she comes across.That is the heart of this post.I’ve been thinking about t … [Read more...]

Straight Married Christians: Could Your Child Become an Orphan?

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It was a normal pregnancy – until now. An infection caused her to spike a fever and she had to have an emergency c-section. It was touch and go for awhile and Mom was worried that she might not survive.And so was her wife.Well, not really her wife in Texas because gay marriage was not recognized in their home state. They had been together for years, had another child together, but the law in Texas would not allow them to marry, and did not recognize their marriage as valid. This was s … [Read more...]

Marriage Equality Opponents Have Lost… Nothing!


Let’s take a moment to reflect on gay marriage opponents who have lost… absolutely nothing.Marriage Equality: The law of the land. Marriage is equally accessible for all. It’s the moment we’ve all been waiting for. And by all, I mean those who have waited and waited until they could marry the love of their lives in their own state, where their family and friends are, where their home is; those who months or years ago traveled far from home to marry the love of their lives, and since then have … [Read more...]

A Steady Rain of Sadness: My Thoughts on Charleston & the Confederate Flag


I’ve been a little overwhelmed by the Charleston murders. I’m sad for the families, yes, but to grieve someone you don’t know is tends to be conceptual. It’s not the intense grief of my mother’s death many years ago, or of my brothers—one of my brothers was randomly shot in the head at 17 years old by a gang member, so in that way I can relate. Those losses, of family members, were like an open fire hydrant of intense grief.The tragic deaths of the Charleston families, whom I did not know, I … [Read more...]

Charleston, Floods, & Global Warming are Because of Gays! Christians, Do These People Speak For You?


Sometimes I just don't know what to say. Now, the unspeakably horrific church shooting in Charleston is being blamed on gays! And do you know who is doing it? EW Jackson - a black Christian preacher and FoxNews contributor! He is not only turning his back on Biblical truth and love, it is an absolute betrayal of the black community.This joins the growing list of tragedies being blamed on "those homosexuals and their evil gay agenda."I have to ask...Non-affirming Christians, do you … [Read more...]

The Truth Is: God IS Interested in Our Obedience! Wait, what!?


If you read yesterday’s post, you’re wondering if my head is spinning, because there I basically said the opposite—that God is NOT interested in our obedience.However, if you know anything about the Bible, you know it is full of contradictions that are resolved only in the deep understanding of the heart of God and the truth and teachings of Jesus. (“Love your enemies; do good to those who hate you.”)If you know anything about me, you know I love to explore apparent contradictions! So let … [Read more...]

The Truth Is: God Is Not Interested in Our Obedience


One of the biggest lies perpetrated throughout Christendom is that God is primarily interested in our obedience. Not true. Patently false. To say our first responsibility to God is to obey is a big fat lie and distortion of the relationship God wants with us. God’s paramount interest in us is a relationship. Didn’t Jesus say repeatedly, “Follow me!”?Let’s say that a couple is about to have their first child, and you say to them conversationally, “What is most exciting to you about having a ba … [Read more...]

Have You Been Left Out of Family Events?


She barely hung up the phone before the tears poured out. “Oh, God, why are you letting this happen? Why??” She just saw all the pictures – accidentally – of her nephew Johnny’s graduation party. She had just talked to him on the phone, called to say congratulations… she loved that kid… and to try to find out what he’d like for a gift.She had no idea there was a party because no one told her about it. They simply had a family party and excluded her.What the hell??She was unspeakably a … [Read more...]