Jesus Blog: The Important Parts of the Body


More today from my Saturday “Jesus Blog” (or maybe today it's "Mr. Potato Head Jesus Blog") - a word from Jesus to you… :-) How are you doing? I've been thinking about you.I like the image of all of you as 'part of a body.'Each has a function, each needs the others, and none is more important than the rest.Every part has a key role to play. And if one part becomes sore or injured, the other parts do what they can to support it and help it.Many of you reading this have been abu … [Read more...]

Dear Susan: You Are Endorsing What God Calls an Abomination


What kind of love is it to call a fellow human being, maybe even your own child, an abomination? What kind of love is it to tell someone they are going to hell? That you are disgusted by them because of something they are doing? What kind of love is it to tell someone they are no longer welcome in church, or welcome in their own home because of who they are or what they do??And how can someone do any or all of that in Jesus name??One of my readers says and does those kinds of things, all … [Read more...]

Are You Infected With Religion?


Our friend Bobby was a hemophiliac. At one point, he needed a blood transfusion; unfortunately, Bobby received his transfusion in the 80s, before they thoroughly screened donated blood for the HIV virus.Bobby was among the last children who caught the HIV virus from a blood transfusion.We all have a God-shaped vacuum -- I truly believe we do -- a vacuum only God can fill. But most of us who have received our transfusion from Jesus got it in the "Christian era," which is infected with the … [Read more...]

When Our Daughter Came Out


Four years ago our daughter came out to us. She was 20. Here’s one of my first thoughts: we’ll never be the same in the church.No kidding.My daughter is telling me something very intimate and scary, several thoughts are going through my head, and I am a little surprised to realize that one is about how the church relationship would never be the same. Not just our then-church but the evangelical tradition we’d been in for 20+ years. They don't accept gays, and no way are we going to squee … [Read more...]

For Gay & For Straight – A Place At The Table


Is there an empty chair at your table?Is your table big enough for everyone? Young and old? Women and men? Those who have hurt you? Those you have hurt? For gays, lesbians, transgender, bisexual, queer? Everyone?What about God's table?  Do you believe God welcomes everyone - as they are?This is Rob, Susan's husband writing today. :-) I was moved to tears at a recent church service. It was organized by the Queer Alliance at a seminary, and held during LGBTQ Pride Week.Jesus had a … [Read more...]

The Right Way to Love God?


What does a "godly" person look like? Is there a right way to love God? Is there a correct path to follow Jesus?I recently returned from my fourth "Christian" conference of the year.January I was in Chicago for the Gay Christian Network Annual Conference, where some 700 people gathered to celebrate, learn, and share community. Rob and I were among 200 parents, the rest were LGBTQ people, mostly in their 20s and 30s, gathered in the name of Christ. The worship, the camaraderie, the joy of … [Read more...]

Jesus Blog: Let Your True Colors Come Out


This is a special Jesus Blog for "Coming Out Month." Please grasp the heart of this message, but please keep yourself safe. You know your situation. Do not do anything rash that can put you (or your living situation) at risk. If you are in that kind of circumstance, but feel like it is time to come out, seek wisdom and help from others so you are not alone.More today from my Saturday “Jesus Blog” – a word from Jesus to you… How beautiful life would be if everyone would just let their true co … [Read more...]

Dear Susan: I Was Born Female, But Know I Am Male. Can God Approve Of Me?


Trapped in the "wrong" body? Forced to live in a way that contradicts the gender you know in your heart and soul you are? Transgender people have unique difficult issues - one of which is believing that God loves them exactly as they are.Many of my readers struggle with this, and I get this question a lot. I look forward to sharing one of those questions, and my answer, with all of you today.I write Dear Susan posts every Friday. Sometimes they will be poignant, sometimes … [Read more...]

Houston Demands Sermons – Guess Why It’s Happening

Ruby Bridges, 6, required three U.S. Marshals to escort her into elementary school in New Orleans, in 1960 - because of hate and threats of violence.

Opinions are flying. Media is abuzz. Government demanding pastors’ to turn over their sermons on homosexuality. I am not writing this to tell you if it’s good or bad. I’d rather tell you WHY it’s happening.I am sure you saw the stories from FoxNews and others.  The City of Houston demands to see pastors’ sermons on anything about homosexuality, gender, or its openly gay mayor.Here’s the deal: government really isn’t supposed to mess around in what the church teaches, right? It’s got enoug … [Read more...]

From A Mom… If You Were My Gay Child, This Is What I Would Tell You

Susan and her daughter Annie, shopping in NYC

I was heartsick that a Pastor - claiming to speak for God - called his Christian teenage son 'disgraceful, demon-possessed poison.'Many of you have been called words like this – by strangers, friends, people in your church, family, and maybe even your Dad too. And you carry deeper wounds than anyone even knows.Well, this Mom wants to tell you a few things….I have five grown children, three girls and two boys - including a queer (her word) daughter. I began this blog and my work – Free … [Read more...]