
I talk to a lot of parents. I’m glad to report that many of them – more every day – love and affirm and embrace their LGBTQ kids, and most of those have stopped trying to change them. That’s the good news.
But still, amazingly, there are too many parents who have not gotten the memo that they will not be able to change their child. They continue to try, and the cost to their child’s heart and soul by trying to change who they are is exorbitant. More than the parents, and more the child can pay.
Why do they even try to change their child? Because they are fearful and worried and don’t want it to be true. They hear some incomplete or misrepresented story of “someone God changed,” and they think it will work for them… er, I mean, for their child.
But let me tell you, it does not work like that.
Exodus International tried for 37 years to change people, and people did not change. The result? People were hurt beyond measure. Lives were destroyed.
It did not work. It will not work. It should not work.
To pray for that change is to deny the perfection of one of God’s creation, one of God’s children.
God has no desire for them to change who they are – why should you?
Don’t try to fix something that God does not see as broken.
Moms and Dads, hear this please… God does not see your gay child as broken in any way. Any desire to change them is rooted in incorrect teaching you may have heard, or in your own desires, or in your own fear.
Conveying to your child that they are somehow broken, less than, undesirable will do more damage than you can possibly imagine; and it will damage your relationship more than you know, for longer than you know. Maybe forever.
Parents, please: treasure and build a sweet relationship with your child. Love them as you would want to be loved.
Leave all the rest up to God.
Love them as though you could lose them tomorrow. You’ll never regret it!