April 9, 2014

“Beyond that, we absolutely, definitely, completely have no place to demand someone else (our gay son) be crucified!” We continue with a dad’s letter about balancing unconditional love with expectations for behavior. Here is the Dad’s letter, Part 3… “The immediate gift of salvation is free to all regardless of condition, but the sustained life of salvation and the subsequent gift of eternal life with our Lord and Savior constitutes entirely from a complete change of behavior/condition; a changing of the mind.... Read more

April 8, 2014

“Now I find I’ve changed my mind and opened up the doors.” – The Beatles’ Help A father wrote me a letter with an open heart and a cry for help. It is a sincere request to understand the ongoing FreedHearts message. He is drawn to the love he finds here, but afraid to ‘take it too far.’ Perhaps you too are wondering how to embrace this love but fear going too far ‘off-road.’ No need to be afraid! We can go off-road, because we... Read more

April 7, 2014

If you are a parent and struggling with the issue of your child being gay, this week is especially for you. All you need to bring to the table is an open heart. It is all I ask. A father wrote a beautiful letter to me with an open heart and a sincere hope to understand this ongoing message of love I write about at FreedHearts. This dad is drawn to the love here, but afraid of what may happen... Read more

April 5, 2014

An easy way to identify those who truly know God is to see how they love… especially how they love and accept those the church and much of the world rejects.  More today from my Saturday “Jesus Blog” – a word from Jesus to you… It’s important that you know how much God loves you.  Lavishly. Abundantly. More than you could imagine! He calls you his child, an overwhelming gift. You ARE a child of God! If the world doesn’t... Read more

April 4, 2014

Dear Franklin Graham, I was dismayed by your interview. You are so unlike your father. He spoke with love and tenderness. You speak with contempt and no love. Gandhi said, “I like your Christ. I do not like your Christians. They are so unlike your Christ.” I like your father. Over his long and illustrious life, he has exemplified the Christian ethic: love God, love others. He showed his love to the world in countless ways. When asked how he... Read more

April 3, 2014

Yesterday, Susan wrote about what it was like when our daughter came out. I thought you might like to hear a Dad’s perspective. I know there are lots of other Dads out there. Sometimes it seems we get “left out” of many of the discussions and support groups. Maybe that’s the way we like it. But the truth is that we need to talk and we need each other. And at times some of the harshest, most cruel things I... Read more

March 31, 2014

Breathe. A whole year has passed since I came out as the parent of an LGBTQ child and an ally. So much happened, and I still have so much still to say! First off, I love you. You have meant so much to me – reading, responding, trusting. You’ve told me you’ve felt heard and valued; well, I’ve felt the same way! There’s not much better than that. Whether you have struggled through the discovery process of your own sexuality,... Read more

March 28, 2014

Only one year ago today, I wrote my first post about LGBTQ issues. Hard to believe so much has come and gone these past twelve months. I have learned more than I can put into words… but for this blog, I will try! So for the next several posts, I’ll share the changes I’ve seen. I invite you to join me as we celebrate and reflect together! Funny story… Justin Lee, author of Torn and Executive Director of The Gay Christian Network accidentally helped me start this blog. When... Read more

March 27, 2014

“Mom, I’m gay.” Earth-shattering words to many conservative Christian parents — tragically, many view it as right up there with, “Your child has a brain tumor.” Actually, Christians will empathize with a brain tumor, but just try telling the church your child is gay and you will find the limit of grace withheld not only from gay Christians but from their accepting families. Not only what is said but unsaid can be oppressive for a family seeking love and truth.... Read more

March 26, 2014

You want to shove those words back in and put the lid on. But you can’t. Your child is gay. This goes against everything you’ve been taught. It was not what you had in mind, and you instantly wonder where you went wrong. When you become a parent, you know to expect the unexpected. But for many Christian parents, nothing can prepare them to hear that their beloved child is gay. This is the child you have cradled, spoon fed... Read more


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