On Christians Talking Dirty (RTT)

On Christians Talking Dirty (RTT) April 25, 2017

Paul Censored

For week four of Random Text Tuesday (RTT), my random-text selector gave me Ephesians 5:4. I’m pretty excited to tackle this one, as I think it is one of the most misused and misapplied verses out there. I’ll start by quoting a few different versions because the translations are all over the place for this verse.

No coarse, stupid, or flippant talk: these things are out of place; you should rather be thanking God. (REB)

Obscene language, silly talk, or vulgar jokes aren’t acceptable for believers. Instead, there should be thanksgiving. (CEB)

Don’t use dirty or foolish or filthy words. Instead, say how thankful you are. (CEV)

Let there be no filthiness nor foolish talk nor crude joking, which are out of place, but instead let there be thanksgiving. (ESV)

There must be no foul or salacious talk or coarse jokes—all this is wrong for you; there should rather be thanksgiving. (NJB)

So what does this mean? Is the author saying we shouldn’t use so-called “curse words”? And what makes something crude? Are we supposed to avoid talking about sex? What about just being silly or flippant—is there never a place for that? What exactly is this verse getting at?


Let’s first eliminate some of these ideas. I think it’s safe to say that the author of this passage does not intend to place any passages of scripture off limits. So if we can find it in scripture, then it’s probably not what he means here.

Since traditional authorship attributes Ephesians to Paul, we’ll start with another one of his passages, Philippians 3:8. Paul says that he regards everything as skybala in order to gain Christ. While nearly every English version provides a euphemism—“filth,” “refuse,” “rubbish,” “trash,” “garbage,” “dirt,” etc.—the most literal translation of the word is simply “shit.” So there goes the ban on “curse words”! (As if there could be a timeless consensus on what constitutes a “curse word” anyway.)

What about crude language? Just consider the following verse:

She lusted after their male consorts, whose sexual organs were like those of donkeys, and whose ejaculation was like that of horses. (Ezekiel 23:20, CEB)

And talking about sex? Here I need only point you to the beautifully erotic Song of Songs, the majority of which is devoted to the sexual encounters of an unmarried woman with her lover (much to the dismay of her patriarchal brothers). Among many other supposedly unmentionable things, it even praises the pleasure of oral sex, though most English translations sadly mute such content.


Much more could be said about the profanity, crude language, and sexually explicit content in the Bible, but these examples are sufficient for now. I don’t believe the author of Ephesians is talking about any of these things. So what is he talking about?

I’ve previously written about how “it all comes down to love.” This principle is true across the board. Love is the litmus test for our every action. That which is unloving should be avoided. But anything that is in line with love is fair game. So the kind of speech here forbidden must be speech that is in some way unloving—that is, speech which harms other people.

What might this look like? The paraphrase found in Eugene Peterson’s The Message offers one possibility:

Though some tongues just love the taste of gossip, those who follow Jesus have better uses for language than that.

And the NCV renders the first phrase as “there must be no evil talk among you,” which I think is a good generalization.

Are you telling stories that shame or slander someone else? Are you making light of a serious situation in a way that is hurtful to those affected by it? Are you using your words to invalidate someone’s experience? Are you crudely misappropriating a sexual orientation as slang (“That’s so gay”)? Are you failing to refer to people by the names, genders, or pronouns they identify with?

These are all examples of evil talk because they are all ways of causing harm to people with our speech. We must use our words for the good of others. Whatever we say, we must always speak with love.

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  • Amy

    You did not address “coarse joking”. You addressed foolish talking, and talking about sexual things, but not specifically “coarse joking.” As far as I can guess, none of the bible verses you mentioned as proofs involved humor whatsoever. I see that as a massive oversight of this article.