Before Somebody Gets Hurt

Before Somebody Gets Hurt November 2, 2018

By Mike Glenn

With my brother and I, it would always start small. One of us would poke the other. The other would steal a favorite toy. There would be an initial name call and an open-handed slap. That would lead to a push which would bring a shove and then, fists would start flying and furniture would get broken. Our parents would send us to our rooms and we would have time to think about what we had done.

One of the things we would think about would be how our fight started in the first place. Neither of us had been looking for a fight. We just starting poking and then, we did the next thing. We did whatever was required to be done by the previous poke. What had begun as playful and aggravating pokes ended up being an all-out brawl.

I thought about my boyhood brawls this week as I was watching news reports of the growing violence in our culture. Now, in the era of 24 hour news, violence may not worse than it’s ever been, but it seems that way. While I’m don’t know the exact crime figures of past generations, I do know this.

I’m tired of all of the violent tragedies that mar life in our country. No, I’m not going to blame political parties for their use of divisive rhetoric as the cause for these events. Everyone is responsible for their own actions.

Here’s what I do know. Violence starts somewhere. Violence doesn’t just blow into our lives from parts unknown. There’s always a trail. There’s always a beginning point, a poke, that starts the violence. While we may not be responsible for any particular act of violence, all of us are responsible for creating an atmosphere, a world view where violence is an acceptable course of action.

We watch movies where the hero has finally had enough and kills his enemy in the most violent way possible. The bigger the bang, the better the movie. We play games where the object of the game is to become the most violent person in the game. Kill our adversaries with such efficiency we’re given more points to obtain more weapons to be more violently efficient in our killing. This is fun?

Here’s where we need to pay attention to the genius of Jesus’ teaching. Remember when Jesus taught us that if we were angry with our brother we were guilty of murder? That if we harbored lust in our minds for a woman, we were already guilty of adultery?

Now, there have been hundreds of theologians who argued about the correct interpretation of these verses. We all protest that Jesus can’t be saying thinking about killing someone is the same thing as thinking about killing them. Is thinking about sex the same thing as having sex?

Obviously not, but that’s not what Jesus is saying. He is saying to us that once you begin to harbor a thought in your mind, our thoughts soon become desires and then, desires become action. Likewise, when we consider a problem and begin to think violence is an answer to that problem, sooner or later, we will act violently in that situation. What we hold in our mind we soon hold in our hearts. What we hold in our hearts, we soon do in our lives.

If we think violently, we’ll soon act violently.

So, in this world where there is so much violence, what can we do? Maybe we can’t do a lot, but that doesn’t mean we can’t do something.

Such as? First, we can sanctify our own thinking. We, as followers of Christ, can “capture every thought” and place them under the Lordship of Jesus Christ. If our thoughts do not honor Him or are disobedient to His teachings, we stop thinking them. Yes, you can control your thoughts. Controlling your thoughts takes a little work, a little discipline, but you can do it.

Second, sanctify your social media. Jesus reads our tweets. He knows what we post on Facebook. Social media that celebrates violence is not something a follower of Christ should do. Pay attention to what you “like” and pass on to others. Is what you’re posting something a believer should be condoning? Thinking about? Supporting? If not, don’t post it.

Third, we can call out our friends when they inadvertently support violence. Social media posts that celebrate harming politicians and celebrities who hold a different position than our own are harmful and violent. Remember, violence starts somewhere. Do our friends post “pokes” that end up with “shoves?” Talk to your friends about it.

Fourth, stand up to bullies. Every day I find myself ashamed as a Christ follower because people who call themselves “Christian” can and will post some of the meanest, hateful, bigoted, lies on the internet. The reason murder is wrong is not that a person is killed, but that the Image of God within that person is attacked. The bully’s sin isn’t against another person, but against God Himself. Stand up against these bullies. Truth demands it. Love demands it.

Lastly, as Paul reminded the Philippians:

Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable—if there is any moral excellence and if there is anything praiseworthy—dwell on these things (Philippians 4:8).

What we hold in our thoughts, we soon hold in our hearts. What we hold in our hearts, we soon do in our lives. So, my friends, hold Christ so that we live Christ. The world needs to see a viable alternative to violence. Let them see Christ whose Life is powerful enough to overcome death itself.




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  • Great counsel; great post. But the post should be named differently. We’re past “before somebody gets hurt.” It would be better to title it, “Before anyone else gets hurt” or “Before it gets worse.”

  • cr johnson

    Scot, Mike and all the great minds with forums on patheos. I am continually mindful of the irony of posts on this site warning of the sins of lust, violence and the disrespect of women. Scroll a bit and the lure of Taboola links tempts a click of a half clothed attractive females. This should disgust all of you. You can do better.

  • azbuckeye

    Good counsel. A couple of points:

    When I read Jesus’ observations on insults and lust, He’s not saying those are the same as murder and adultery, and He’s not saying the former lead to the latter. He’s saying the law against murder encompasses insults/hate and the law against adultery encompasses lust. Think of “murder” as being the general title that covers homicide, negligent homicide, manslaughter, negligent manslaughter, and, in God’s kingdom, insults and hatred. Since grading is on a pass/fail/grace basis, there is no hierarchy of punishments.

    We should be careful about how we stand up to bullies. Yes, we should stand up, but it’s easy to rationalize our behavior when doing so. You may recall Obama advocating “push back twice as hard,” advice not seen in the Sermon on the Mount. And Trump called MS-13 members “animals,” which may be akin to “raca.” While calling out vicious killers is the right thing to do, we should do so in line with Jesus’ teachings.

  • scotmcknight

    I have adblocker so I don’t see the ads…

  • AntithiChrist

    Sanctified. Jesus. Got it. 81% of US Evangelical Christians either prayed to Jesus, or did the next best thing, spoke to their church leadership or fellow parishioners, and Jesus answered very loudly and clearly: “Vote for the guy who encourages violence at his rallies and spews right-supremacist hatred for all to see.”

    The rest is very ugly history.

    Thank you Jesus. 81% of us now feel sanctified.

    Thank you for the strong moral compass.

  • swbarnes2

    The bully’s sin isn’t against another person, but against God Himself. Stand up against these bullies.

    Thanks you for being so forthright about your Christian framework.

    You just can’t get away from the insistence that only the powerful and what they value matters. If I hurt someone, you really, sincerely think that how they feel doesn’t matter, all that matters is how the powerful feel.

    Evangelicalism wouldn’t be evangelicalism if you felt any differently.

  • Iain Lovejoy

    I’m with you on the violence, less so on the lust, even less on “disciplining” thoughts, which is ineffectual and counterproductive.
    To hate a brother is to lack love for them, and the cure is not trying to suppress “bad” thoughts about him, but to encourage greater love for him, which drives out hate.
    Jesus’s words about thoughts of adultery are, firstly, about adultery which is specifically sex with someone else’s wife, so the evangelical spiel of telling teenagers who fancy each other they are somehow committing a sin is pure nonsense.
    Secondly, Jesus’s teaching about “adultery in the heart” seems to me likely to be specifically about Jewish marriage law, not “lust” generally. Under Jewish law a woman divorced by her husband was free to marry again to anyone she wanted, with one exception: a woman divorced for adultery could never marry the man with whom she had committed the adultery. That alone was forbidden. Jesus’s teaching about “adultery in the heart” is part and parcel of what he immediately goes on to talk about regarding divorce: a man taking in marriage another man’s wife is still unlawful and adulterous even if he first obtains the husband’s consent to a divorce, because he has by lusting after the wife already committed adultery with her in his heart, whether or not he has complied with the strict letter if the law by waiting until the divorce is granted before actually going to bed with her.
    This teaching has nothing to do with “controlling lust”.

  • Snoring

    Violence is wrong but so is pacifism. There is evil in this world and sometimes we have to fight or let others get hurt by evil people.

    I agree we need Christ to discipline our thoughts

  • swbarnes2

    Sigh. The Pew poll showed that 81% of white evangelicals voted for Trump, not 81% of all evangelicals. Let’s not tar Hispanic and black people with the vile choices of white people.

  • AntithiChrist

    Thank you. My error.

  • Barros Serrano

    The violence in the Orange Usurper’s heart led to the death of a Mayan girl on a bus in the New Mexico desert.

    The violence in the hearts of his supporters will lead to more death and suffering, and violence against helpless powerless people.

    How many calling themselves Christians are still supporting this immigrant-hating wall-obsessed Orange Narcissist?

    Matthew 25.