Why do you think it is that so many people who say they’re Christian are okay with acting in ways that are the opposite of what Christ stood for?
My answer: So, taking the gist of your question out from behind its thin veil of accusation, you believe that all Christians should behave in certain and specific ways, and are wondering why they don’t. That’s a reasonable enough question—until you take into account that not all Christians believe the same things, by a very long shot.
In today’s world, knowing that a person is Christian tells you nothing whatsoever about what that person actually believes. It’s like describing something with only the word “furry.” Could be a rat, could be a bear, could be a hat. There’s just not enough information in that one word to tell you what you’re dealing with.
Some Christians believe that Jesus was God incarnate; others that he was just an exemplary social worker. Some believe Jesus sacrificed himself for the sins of all mankind; others that he was executed for being politically subversive.
Hell is real; hell is a metaphor. The Bible is the word of God; the Bible was penned by men flawed as all mortals are. Only Christians get into heaven; the Pearly Gates are open to all. A wife should be subservient to her husband; any man who believes that is a misogynist. God loves a wealthy Christian; “wealthy Christian” should be an oxymoron. The earth is 6,000 years old; science. Homosexuality is a sin; being gay is no more a sin than is being blue-eyed or left-handed.
Catholicism is the true and pure Christianity. Ditto Protestantism. Ditto any of the other 33 thousand Christian denominations, each of which has its very own take on Christianity.
Bottom line: Say what you will about, for instance, a billionaire pastor screaming about the evils of homosexuality. Call him a fool; call him a bully; call him an affront to God. But don’t call him a hypocrite. Because that he’s not. He is being true to what he believes.
Speaking for myself, I could give a rat’s hat what any given person believes about God or anything else—right up until, that is, what they believe brings harm to anyone else. Then I care, a lot, since it’s manifestly and absolutely wrong for anyone to hurt or exploit anyone else.
What I believe is that every Christian is morally obliged to ask themselves the same question every person in the world is morally obliged to ask themselves, which is: Does anything that I believe or practice inevitably lead to anyone else being harmed or oppressed?
If the Christian honestly asking themselves that question cannot avoid the conclusion that something they believe is, in fact, bringing any measure of harm into the world that we all share, then it is incumbent upon that Christian to dismantle that belief, and to rebuild it into something that only serves, and never harms, others. To disregard that imperative is to fail others, fail themselves, and fail the God they profess to love.
Read John Shore’s breakout novel, Everywhere She’s Not.