Robert Lopez Grew Up With Two Moms–But He’s Not a “Hater”

Robert Lopez Grew Up With Two Moms–But He’s Not a “Hater” November 10, 2015

READ TO THE END, BECAUSE THIS IS YOUR OPPORTUNITY
TO SIGN THE PETITION TO PROTECT DR. LOPEZ.

Dr Robert O LopezRobert Oscar Lopez grew up with two moms. Lopez, who is now a professor of English and Classics at California State Northridge, was raised by his lesbian mother and her partner. He was loved, but it was hard–he always felt like a misfit in society, and he didn’t learn the relationship skills that would have enabled him to fit in.

Lopez wrote a personal reminiscence about the problems he faced in a two-mother household, in an August 2012 essay in Public Discourse. His report dealt with his own feelings, and did not make the case against gay marriage or gay rights; nonetheless, he was immediately attacked by GLAAD and other gay and lesbian rights organizations.

In October 2014, he chronicled the gay rights movement’s effort to target him in an essay in First Things magazine. His personal narrative was, Lopez explained, re-categorized by LGBT activists as “hate speech.” Invitations to speak at college campuses were withdrawn; the Human Rights Campaign classified him as an “exporter of hate”; he’s received angry, obscene emails and voicemails.

Explaining his difficult childhood in First Things, Lopez wrote:

Quite simply, growing up with gay parents was very difficult, and not because of prejudice from neighbors. People in our community didn’t really know what was going on in the house. To most outside observers, I was a well-raised, high-achieving child, finishing high school with straight A’s.

Inside, however, I was confused.

Now Professor Lopez is apparently on the verge of being suspended without pay, ostensibly due to a conference, “Bonds that Matter,” that he organized a year ago. A petition organized by Dr. Jennifer Roback Morse and the Ruth Institute explains:

This man of Puerto Rican and Philippine heritage, who knows 6 modern languages as well as Latin and Greek, is being hounded out of his job, purely for ideological reasons.

 The “Bonds that Matter” conference organized by Dr. Lopez in October 2014 was a good faith effort to discuss important issues of great public concern, including:

  • Whether children have rights to a relationship with both of their parents, in the absence of some unavoidable tragedy.

  • Whether children have a right to know their identity, so that all adults without exception can know their cultural heritage and genetic identity.

  • Whether these entitlements of children impose legitimate obligations and limitations on adult behavior.

The conference was an optional event; and students who preferred could instead complete a non-conference option for credit. Of the 100 students who attended, only one filed a formal complaint.

These and other details are delineated in the petition, asking Dr. Timothy P. White, chancellor of CSU, to drop all charges against Lopez.

“He is being hounded out of his job for ideological reasons,” says Dr. Roback Morse. “Please, help this brave man. He is standing up for YOUR values.”

Regardless of your political persuasion, you will want to defend the right of a highly trained academic to speak freely on a college campus.

You can sign the petition here.

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  • captcrisis

    I signed the petition.

    As Dr. Lopez put it, “We need offensive cartoons, obnoxious cartoonists, and offended sensibilities. Without them, society stagnates and tyranny reigns.” I certainly find him offensive. Despite what you say he might really be a “hater” (he comes t-h-i-s close to calling same-sex parenting “child abuse”) and his opinions would be on the fringe even here at the “Catholic Channel”. But he’s a professor of English and as far as I can tell he hasn’t let his opinions into his classes.

    • Joseph J. Pippet

      JMJ captcrisis. No such thing as samesex marriage!!! It’s Sodomy with a male person or a female person, against God’s Natural Law and God’s commandment!. Also it is Child Abuse permitted/mandated by our politicians (Through the Citizens not speaking against Sodomites and their Supporters, Fools Like you, captcrisis) Illegal laws of Coercion. He’s Catholic he should be more Vociferous against Sodomy (with No apologies) and their supporters. Respectfully with Love, Joseph J. Pippet

      • Rusty Reiter

        Bigot, get over yourself. All you have done is prove the claims of hate were correct.

    • Liza

      How do you know that same sex parenting isn’t a form of child abuse? How much do you have invested in thinking a better person would hold a “more progressive position” –hey why not. I am also a COG (child of gays) and really I suspect no matter how many proof I laid at your feet you would say, “well that only your experience and . . .” I would tell you to think long and hard because same sex parenting is not going to be on the right side of history. It will be seen as child abuse. You can take that to the bank.

      • Rusty Reiter

        Liza is the fake name of Robert Oscar Lopez, a man who chose that profile name to mock the gay icon. He is one Liza imitator we could do without in a civilized nation.

        • Liza

          I have no idea what you are talking about it is a common name–short for Elizabeth– is that okay with you sir? I am not mocking anything I am one of larger group of COGs–children of gays who are coming out to counter all the well funded HRC lies. Are you so drunk on TV that you think it was some kind of happy time being forced to be a prop in adults narcissist selfish and yes very abusive lives. OMG I really hope you get 1 tenth of what was done to us–one tenth. . Save your cry of bigot and homophobe and piss poor argument I was raise in the LGBT community and a ss home–I could not care less what you think because I know what goes on and I must say I do loath and detest and LGBT that takes other peoples children to torment and show off like little trained poodles and the training that’s a whole other abuse—now you go off sir and call me a liar because that it what you all do to any child that reports abuse and then you cover up all the suicides of the kids trapped like poodles in LGBT homes– and people are too stupid or scared. I have to say I will relish the back lash–

          • Rusty Reiter

            Liar. You are actually Robert Oscar Lopez.

          • Liza

            Oh now we see it Abusive Gay Man–look how you fall into the gas-light and the deflection. Quick people give these people children to torment with all manner of exactly what you just displayed. You prove my point. Almost every manipulation–all parenting strategies. What a sick culture if these nice people knew how they have suckered and used.

          • Rusty Reiter

            Robert, you are such a tired act. You are obsessed with attacking an entire minority community because your Mommies loved you. What a sicko.

          • Liza

            I am not Robert–ask me a female question not about fashion. I am another COG we have exploded jerk. I mean you guys keep trying to get in pretending you are one of us but so we have kept you out. We have a movement now. Yep catch Millie in Australia and June in England. We will be heard so tell the HRC they can stop threatening our families and children and quit it with the small dead animals in the driveway. And all the other bullying and terror strikes. Oh yeah did you see Rosies daughter–you people will be exposed and we will do it. We are going international. In less than 10 years there will 1000’s of us talking about the about abusive distortions, the endless punishment, the forced play acting we had to do to show people how great you are–sick really very sick. Even the biggest homophobe can’t even begin to understand what it means to live in places with toxic deluded narcissistic personality disorder as the prevailing culture.

          • Rusty Reiter

            Robert Oscar Lopez, you were caught using the name “Coco” also. And you speak about LGBT people the same way white supremacists speak about people of color.

          • Liza

            No you should sober up. Oh one of us has dear Daddy sentenced to prison–We are getting brave. I know you heard about that one because that COG had to move and go under ground. Too bad Daddy died only a few months into his sentence he should have suffered longer but we take what we can get. And that COG is coming out with a book. I can’t wait until more people see you through our eyes and experience–good days ahead sir.

          • Rusty Reiter

            Your sentences are falling apart. You are missing words and rambling, proving you are the one who has been drinking. I am stone cold sober, and you are the one hosting your own self-pity party with rambling nonsense about LGBT people, Robert. Do the world a favor. Get yourself into counseling.

          • Liza

            You people are so predictable with this whole act try to pretend that there is only one of us. Maybe you are indeed stupid enough or arrogant enough to think that– But then on the other hand HRC spend tons of money to attack and threaten so many of us. So somebody knows we have exploded in numbers. You just do not want other people to know how bad the situation is and that the kids are going public with the abuse and the very sick stuff that is the life blood of the entire movement or that we turning on you and going public and exposing all of it.

            You know in other countries we are believed–here stupid and delusional go hand in hand and rule –fine think I am Robert if that works for you. I have to go read the kids a story and prep for some presentations I am giving on child abuse cover up in LGBT and how to tell what’s going on–

          • Rusty Reiter

            Nobody in the free world falls for your crap. All you do is convince the Third World to stone to death all LGBT people they can. You are happy with hate and abuse, but angry with loving couples and happy families. Get help, Robert.

          • Liza

            The point is not adult men because they are not the victims–the kids are. I love the whole cry victim to victimize–

            To save other kids from lives of dealing with exactly your type of manipulation and abuse that you practice here it is nearly a cliche you use it so often.

            So yes I say and show you are as we know you laying out all the lies before you say them and explaining and how they work.

            Like showing the whole social scam, and explaining the harm to other people that you all cause and the false cry of victim.

            So Its laughable Jack–you pulling that–dead gay crap so tedious and really –after what you people do– how dare you. Oh yes the dead gays– Great media spin–Shepard a meth dealer killed by his boy friend–come on the truth always outs and you guys have played that one trick pony way too long.

            People get it . And when they hear it from someone raised in it who can describe all the –gas lights and distortions, the abusive, bullying. It is just very important to protect as many kids as possible. And by saying and telling what we know we do that. Sir you are not on our list of concerns–Just trying to save kids from what we had to endure. We are doing it for all the kids in LGBT homes that committed suicide and who were never save–so F-you dude, Dead gays? Hahaha. Liar

          • Rusty Reiter

            Robert, you go around in virtual drag spewing lies and hate. The only people you convince are those looking for a way to rationalize their desire to attack LGBT people.

          • Liza

            Really? You so sure of that sir–I think people are paying attention. We have the loving family pictures. Most people do not find them as charming as the media pics you all have been told to do these days. How are they ever going to shut us up? I think they figured out they can’t. Nothing they have done has worked. Oh well–remember nobody is listening and all of are all what 200 or something are just crazy liars and you guys are really really really good guys–look the long history of humanitarian work from LGBT–a bunch of Mother Teresas, just rushing from one good deed to the next as fast as your legs will carry you.

      • Proteios

        Interesting comment. I note that Richard dawkins, atheist has said Christianity is a form of child abuse. If I were to hold off on being incensed at the mans outright stupidity, but look underneath that as he calls for ‘forms of child-rearing’ as potential for intellectual abuse. It raises the question you raise. What environment (devoid of being physically or emotionally abused) constitutes abuse?
        THe left does seem to want to define for parents what intellectual abuse wont be tolerated and use that as reason to remove children from homes. There is growing evidence to indicate that these things are occurring. I agree though, same sex couples if done deliberately and not accidently is abuse. Just as I think a single mother who consciously rejects a man to ‘do it herself’ is abusing the child. This does NOT mean a woman who lost her husband and is doing the best she can fits that category.

        • Liza

          I suppose any and all religion can certainly be a form of child abuse in the extreme and in the wrong hands but religion does not de facto cut the child off from having a mother and a father and force them into a situation where all their basic rights to a mother and father are denied. And then also demand they in turn must act out some canned script and to prove some ideology based on other peoples sexual interests. I mean think about it. Imagine having to live a made up life in the service of other peoples sexual interest. To me single mothers–just means the mother is not married to the father. It does not mean the has no connection to the father and those situations run a wide range and have been going on for 1000s of years. The parenting is abuse and denies children basic human rights. They are slaves to adults and an ideology that was cooked up over the last 30 years and not by the greatest minds of the generation–maybe the most manipulative.

    • Proteios

      His credentials are valid in coursework and he needs to be a little careful. But considering the Dawkins (atheist) speaks freely of things outside his background of evolutionary biology. Kinsey (1950s) spoke of sex and was a entomologist??? (google it, some biological area), Noam Chosky is a linguist who has only really been noted for his social observations. I see what you are saying but academia is an open book. When it becomes close-minded and shuts out ideas based on them being politically incorrect or the speaker doesn’t have the academic credentials, it is moving away from academic and intellectual freedom.
      our underlying point of what can he do on his own time….that’s an interesting question. Must we abide 24/7 with that ideal. Yet, the same groups protesting right now will scream bloody murder if a Catholic school teacher doesn’t live by the honor code she signed (even on her own time). Seems hypocritical.

  • Howard

    The fictional Greg, Peter, and Bobby Brady — and millions of their real-life counterparts — had “two moms”: their birth mother, and a stepmother. Let’s be more careful how we use the language.

  • Rusty Reiter

    We need a petition to get Lopez fired. He obsessively writes thousands of online verbal attacks against all LGBT people worthy of the KKK and ISIS.

    • Proteios

      Bear in mind he is an academic. Consider the black professors who have spouted vitriol that makes this look tame. The self proclaimed feminist scholars that have said such ignorant and irrational things based on, not evidence, but social values. THese are ALL tolerated in academic circles because the intelligencia must permit this in the same way freedom must permit flag burning. The irony or rather pseudo-hypocrisy is noted, but I think in the big picture all values and ideals need a platform and academic freedom is the platform to do that. Once academia decides what will and wont be discussed we have closed our minds around a sub set of values.

      • Rusty Reiter

        Nonsense. Lopez is no academic. He is supposed to be teaching English lit in a community college, not running a political activist training seminar and pressuring students to take it – or else.

        • Liza

          He’s an English Professor. He teaches Lit has a Ph.D that’s an academic. NR reported that the conference was like for half a day and optional. From what I read the kid does not have a case, the U mishandled it and it is such overreach that if he is lucky they will in fact do something more absurd and he will wipe the floor with them in court and get a huge pay out. It also seems I think the writer Austin Ruse suggested that HRC or GLAAD and activitis from off campus played a roll in the whole thing–that would not be good.

          • Rusty Reiter

            He’s anti-intellectual. His phd is a post hole digger.

          • Rusty Reiter

            I should say “you” and “your” Robert. You are rattled enough now to destroy yourself. And you will. The truth always comes out.

    • Liza

      You say that about every COG–default mode–destroy people–LGBT concept of good fun . What about LGBT threatening COGs and their kids and families–cool right. Maybe this Lopez thing will expose more of what goes on and how it goes on. It is a real problem when a group wants to declare other peoples lived experience hate speech. I dunno though the charges are so thin and absurd I don’t think they can actually do anything to him.

  • Proteios

    Sadly, academia is no longer a place of accepting all ideas under the umbrella of intellectual freedom. It has closed its mind around a sub set of social values. Many of these values are not driven by intellectualism, but politics. As an academic, who has been educated and remains to teach and do research, I have (and still am) watching this sad transition. Let me call it the de-intellectualization of academia.

  • Ohso

    Children Know that they have a Male (XY) Father and Female (XX) Mother – as the existence of http://www.donorsiblingregistry.com shows, and the ‘happy’ Thought Police Demand they deny it – or else.

    The UC System is particularly vicious in its Misandry (Hatred of Men & Boys, Masculinity & Normal Heterosexuality) and I have been targeted by their Secret Retaliation Pogroms.

    The UCSB campus’ resident harpies from the ‘Womyn’s’ Center secretly contacted my employer demanding I be punished & silenced for daring to publicly object in a letter in the local paper – about the Student Newspaper publishing an ‘editorial’ – with a picture of a caucasian male with a pig growing out his forehead and the caption:

    “I am a lying sexist, Cut open my head, Drag out the Pig, and Butcher It!”

    *Note that any actual violence is only to be directed against those Pork Byproducts who deserve it.
    SEE
    Academic Censorship as a Political Weapon
    http://dailysignal.com/2015/03/26/demint-at-yale-academic-censorship-as-a-political-weapon/?

    Recently, the Foundation for Individual Rights in Education (FIRE) released a report determining that most U.S. colleges now violate free speech rights.

    Senator Jim De-Mint deconstructs the issue.

    • Rusty Reiter

      wow, such raw sewage presented as facts

      • Liza

        See you just go to the dismissive. A kid that’s abused in LGBT land gets the same response–hence the high suicide attempts. What Lopez came out and said is the truth–a terrible truth. And ever since HRC and GLAAD have made it their mission to destroy him and to destroy all of us. Great parenting material–and people are still stupid enough to not be terrified.

        • Rusty Reiter

          Robert, you live in a fantasy of your own making. Your father was the one who ditched you. Your mothers were there every step of the way. You need to thank them, not blame them for your missing father.

  • Ohso

    3 Cheers for the Tolerance-Police at ‘hrc’ – where the example of Icons like Terry Bean & Larry Brinkin is an inspiration to all such ‘in-human-rights’ activists:

    http://www.oregonlive.com/portland/index.ssf/2015/09/prominent_gay_activist_terry_b_1.html#incart_story_package

    Prominent (HRC) gay activist Terry Bean offered $225,000 to settle sex abuse case
    – Terry Bean offered the alleged victim in a sex crimes case $225,000 to settle the matter through a civil compromise, according to a court recording released late Tuesday.
    The charges against Bean, a prominent gay activist and high-profile Democratic fundraiser, and his ex-boyfriend were dismissed earlier in the day when the teenager in the case failed to appear for trial.

    -five-point settlement offer: — Bean would pay the boy $225,000. — Bean would be tested for an array of sexually transmitted diseases at his expense…

    A civil compromise is legal under Oregon law. Defendants may compensate the victims of certain crimes and have the charges dismissed if a judge approves the deal.
    An offer to settle a child sex abuse case through civil compromise is unprecedented, prosecutors said.

    & SEE – San Francisco’s Gay Icon Larry Brinkin Guilty of Felony Child Porn Possession http://cnsnews.com/news/article/michael-w-chapman/san-francisco-s-gay-icon-larry-brinkin-guilty-felony-child-porn

    • Rusty Reiter

      You are attempting to smear all LGBT people due to one person’s actions. That is the epitome’ of bigotry.

      • Liza

        And LGBT attacks it own children, the ones that reports them and then outsources more abuse to the entire community to silence the victim. You can’t even own it. Because defending the crafted narrative is far more important than kids lives. It is dangerous to defend abusers over victims and trivialize the victim and turn the victimizer into a rare exception or himself a victim of “bigots”. Like Bean is some rare exception. We have tried to bring things to light and address children rights–no adult has a right to children. But nobody in the HRC wants to hear about it–uhm “human rights”
        Last year one of had to have Daddy dear arrested and convicted and sentenced to 25 years. These are not even their own children in many cases–how can you defend it and still walk among us–but you do and you will and maybe in some fog you can live with that and even think it is good or noble or something. That is what I do not get–even though I grew up in it I am still stunned by the cognitive disconnect. Only when a whole bunch of us came together did we know for sure that . I mean we gas-lighted for so long it was hard. Maybe it is some kid of war and people will only see it when kids are stacked like cord wood. The horrible thing is why–why are kids needed–to prove what? And then what happens to those kids. And all the further abuse needed to silence and cover up–why?

        • Rusty Reiter

          Oh stop it. You sound like a Nazi discussing Jews. Most foster and adoptive parents are wonderful. And sexual orientation is no predictor of fitness for parenting.

          • Liza

            Having two care takers of the same sex is a far cry from a mother and father. Calling people who lived the experience Nazi is to demonize us and say we have no human rights. Bodes well for parenting.

          • Rusty Reiter

            Robert, quit holding your fake pity party. Nobody is falling for it in the free world. That’s why you have to sell your lies to the Third World now, so you can get LGBT people abused, imprisoned and killed to satisfy your insane bloodlust.

          • Liza

            So now you are denying I exist. I AM Liza and this is–another abusive tactic. Like I said you can’t make us human and this is the kind of bat sh#t crazy COGs live with. I hope people are watching. I do not think that anyone would not see what we are talking about.

          • Rusty Reiter

            You have already admitted you are a male and chose the name “Liza” to mock the gay icon. Now just admit your name is Robert, and you like to use female names for your fake profiles. Remember when you were caught before, “Coco?”

          • Liza

            Sir stop the games. I am not Robert. You continue to prove my point. You deny our existence because we were and are nothing–LGBT parenting. Here it is.

          • Rusty Reiter

            You congratulated me on figuring out that you were not a woman a year ago. You admitted you chose the name of the gay icon to make fun of gays. You need to use your real name if you want to be taken seriously, Robert.

          • Liza

            I never did any of that yet you keep saying it. That is exactly the kind of abuse kids endure from the adults and more–it is as if you seem to be intellectually and emotionally stunted at maybe 11 years old and can’t even see it. Great parenting material–ever hear of honesty or kindness. Now go play victim so nobody notices how you victimize, control and exploit–

          • Rusty Reiter

            One thing that is clear to anyone who reads your posts – you are bitter and blaming all your personal problems on all the LGBT parents of the world. You need intense therapy. Kvetching all day won’t help anyone.

          • Liza

            I have not said a personal thing here. I am protecting children from the cruelty and abuse that is LGBT parenting and sir I’m far from the only COG doing this. In fact I think I told you I have made a great large supportive family for myself. We are devoted to saving other children from what so many of us were made to live through and in the memory for all the ones that did not live through it. Is that clear?

          • Rusty Reiter

            Claiming all LGBT parents are bad because yours were is like claiming all left-handed parents are bad because yours were. It is pure nonsense.
            Might as well say all Jewish parents are bad or all single parents. It is irrational bigotry. But I suppose you must be against single parents, too, since that “robs” a child of a mother and father.
            Seek counseling, please.

          • Liza

            More denial and demonization and violent ideation. I imagine people are saying “wow just wow” and looking at your aggressive cruelty. Yep lets hand over little kids for some of that–great idea.

        • Ohso

          Liza – You should know better than to Feed the Trolls hanging around here like radical homosex harpies dumping their (excrement deleted) on the roost.

  • Asemodevs

    The people I know who were raised by gay or lesbian “couple” had horrible childhoods, filled with every form of abuse.

  • Tiger

    Moderators, this thread is in serious need of a clean-up. This level of infantile nastiness is uncalled for.

  • MissTrixieB

    The true hate lies in those people who refuse to acknowledge everyone’s right to his or her own opinion — even if if differs from theirs. They don’t want to hear because they may have to accept the truth of what people like Professor Lopez are telling them because they may have to change their narrow minded opinions. Attempting to force someone out of employment because you don’t agree with what they say is selfish, wrong and evil.