Cyndi always offers a fresh perspective on societies issues in a freshly magickal way
I agree with you totally Cyndi! We witches have to be strong, and fierce! That’s why I write what I do, about my journey as an open transwoman…so that others like me can see that being quiet only reinforces what is used against us. Like I wrote about in a slightly different way before “Enough is Enough”. Witches own who you are…I’m a Witch..& I own it!!!
I agree with the over-emphasis on the positivity. In fact, that is what creates the Shadow (the repression of anger, and always being “sickly sweet” positive).
I like to embrace the “dark and violent” side of Nature because I am a part of Nature…not just as a human, but also on the soul-level.
Nature is not all cute and beautiful and sweet…it is dark, violent, poisonous, and deadly in many ways.
I really appreciate this article, thank you for writing it and for the links you’ve put at the bottom. I just wanted to point out one bit that’s obviously unintentional, but ultimately unkind. You use the word “triggered” in a way that’s unkind to those of us with PTSD and similar trauma related issues. You used it as if “triggered” means to be enraged or powerfully emotional. But that’s not the only meaning it has (and in fact that meaning is very new). Triggered is also about when a flashback or a panic attack is triggered by something that reminds a person of their traumatic experience. When I’m triggered it’s not good, it’s not powerful, it’s not healing, what it is is continuing to experience the trauma and the hurt. Yes, we need to face our pain for healing but for those of us with severe PTSD, diving right into all the things that make us relive the horror again is NOT healing. To heal that level of trauma is a lot more delicate, and I really needed to point that out. Don’t tell people to dive willy-nilly into their horror in the name of healing for some of us that’s a path to destruction not healing. And please don’t tell folks that choosing not to speak of their trauma is bad, some of us choose not to speak of it for very good reasons, some of us can’t speak of it without it breaking us apart, some of us have horrors so terrible that to share them hurts others, and others still are raw from a recent assault and just can’t. Every victim should be allowed to choose when they’re ready, and not be bullied to do so before they’re able because of the enthusiasm of others.
Thank you for this. I’m tired of hearing forgive, mend fences, let go, yadda yadda yadda. No, I may let go enough to not waste energy on something or someone I can’t change, but I’m not going to forget, and forgiveness doesn’t happen unless the person is remorseful, contrite, changed, etc., which means never.
I’m Bruce Banner in the first Avengers movie: my secret is I’m always angry.
…which means never…exactly.
Bekka, if you interpret my use of the term as unkind, then that is entirely up to you. I’m not going to invalidate your experience. Haven’t we all been invalidated enough? Truth is that exposure therapy is highly effective. Turning pain into power is very healing. I wish you all the best as you recover.
Do you realise that using the response of “if you interpret what I said as offensive/unkind it’s your fault”, is actually a strategy abusers use to invalidate criticism? It’s a kind of scapegoating.
It takes maturity and integrity to gracefully receive criticism, and only a little of both to NOT use abusive strategies in order to silence someone for saying something that you don’t want to hear.
It wasn’t my intention to invalidate your perspective, only to show you some respect by expanding your knowledge (which you’re obviously lacking a lot of in the field of trauma healing). I hoped that as a fellow witch, you might take that information and think a little deeper about your use of particular language, so as to avoid, where possible, harming people who are already suffering and vulnerable. But you failed to see my intention or even actually read what I said.
Truth is, you need to realise that just because something works really well for you and your specific circumstances, it doesn’t automatically make it universally applicable to everyone else’s situations.
Bekka, can you please point out to me where I blamed you for anything? Honestly, I feel like there is some sort of communication barrier between us. If you would like to see my trauma treatment credentials, I am most happy to provide you with my curriculum vitae. Perhaps you might like to read some of the academic articles or book chapters I’ve written on various aspects of trauma? Or talk to the hundreds who have benefited from my courses? I don’t just throw out random personal opinions, I use evidence from both traditional methods and modern effective treatments. I take umbrage to your accusations, clearly you are interpreting my supporting words as something they are not. While you are ordering me to be open to criticism, you appear to be completely resistant to it. I can’t speculate as to the reasons for this. I was clearly trying not to invalidate you, while you ignore my words and accuse me of scapegoating. Know that I do take all comments into consideration. I wish you healing.
I love this comment. Perfectly stated!! Positivity all the time is toxic, nature does not act in this manner.
Thanks. You might enjoy my Pluto website (although I am working on it here and there):
It’s where I have been collecting relevant information along with my own experiences.
“I get angered when witches and other types of spiritual practitioners advocate a soft approach. Honestly, this is part of the absolutely useless and damaging toxic positivity culture that some spiritual practitioners, teachers and writers push on those who need truth more than white light. ” – I LOVE this!!!!!! This constant need for positivity feels so bloody unnatural and wrong. That is NOT my natural state. I don’t think flying off the handle is always the correct course of action, but anger doesn’t always mean going off the deep end without thought. Anger for me…. yesterday…. helped me think more clearly. I was ready to give in and crawl into submission in a certain situation. My anger reminded me I am worth the respect I ask of people.
Avoiding how you honestly feel and not honouring who you are and where you are in your journey is NEVER the right course of action. Thank you!! I needed this article right now, even though it was published a little while back! lol