I love the power that the #metoo movement is bringing to trauma warriors. The righteous anger we feel propels us towards healing. While calling out the predators who perpetrated the abuse is vital, sharing our stories is complex for the one doing the truth-telling and those bearing witness. In particular, others who have experienced similar trauma may be triggered. Being silent is not an option. Speaking out is the only way forward. This is how we make it all stop. How we navigate our rage, healing and best support others is a subject very much on my mind these days. I know it is for many of you, too.
Every day I get messages from people who are struggling due to trauma from abuse of all kinds. For me, witchcraft is fundamentally healing work. I’ve been supporting trauma warriors both within the mainstream health system and in my private work for about two decades. I’ve collected so many stories. I honor everyone who has shared their pain with me. I try my best to offer support. I say all the right things, especially about the importance of radical acceptance for healing. I write a lot about healing and trauma. I offer my Shadow Healing course for free a few times a year. Along the way, I’ve found my own healing through the bravery and strength of others on the same journey.
Still, I rage that the abuse happened in the first place, that society doesn’t value their pain or believe them, and that the only way out of their misery is through hell. This is where we are. I stand with you.
We all want instant fixes. I wish I had a magic(k) wand to wave to make it all better, but it takes work. Healing is a continuing process.
I’ve been working on an article entitled “Witchery for Conquering Our Fears” in conjunction with the New Moon Circle I’m leading on Wednesday. If only I could recommend one crystal, ritual or spell that would erase the things that keep us up at night. Talking about truth-telling seemed a more important topic.
Healing doesn’t work like that, it’s about staring our pain right in the eyes and doing the work – supported by our various guides, spells, and botanicals – daily.
I’m fortunate that I have someone to talk to about my rage who doesn’t judge me even though they don’t have similar experiences. Hearing someone. Holding space for someone. These are often the best things we can do.
I know some of you are triggered when others share their story. I ask you to consider transforming this into support. We are all triggered these days. The point is not to avoid hearing others’ pain but to use that trigger for healing. Silence is our enemy. I will never discourage someone from sharing their truth. The only way forward is to learn to handle when we are triggered and to overcome these initial reactions to stand with the person sharing their story.
I want to drop this right here: trauma warriors are not exclusively women. I’ve heard from people identifying otherwise about their pain and struggle. It’s true that women are highly likely to suffer abuse and violence. This doesn’t mean that it only happens to us. Men, in particular, are often made to feel even worse (hard as it is to imagine) when they share their stories of abuse. Let’s lift them up, too. People who are marginalized by aspects of their identity (from race to sexual orientation) suffer more, are less likely to have access to services and be believed.
If someone is truth-telling they are telling the truth.
There’s too many risks in coming forward. It takes courage to share our stories. We must be brave enough to return truth-tellers bold honesty with our support. Turning away is the shadow telling us that we can’t reach out because of our own pain.
Are we not powerful witches? Our rage is justified. Turning away from other warriors with similar experiences is NOT the way forward. We are the warriors in Hekate’s army. Fierce love, mindful support and compassion are my weapons. What are yours?
I get triggered, too. I rage. I have so much rage.
I get angered when witches and other types of spiritual practitioners advocate a soft approach. Honestly, this is part of the absolutely useless and damaging toxic positivity culture that some spiritual practitioners, teachers and writers push on those who need truth more than white light.
We need more anger witchcraft. Banishing. Justice spells. Healing work borne of compassionate anger. Using energy work to lift up those coming forward. It’s time to put down the broom and take up the sword. If you’re one of those who are about to comment that anger never solved anything, know that I wish you well and completely disagree. Anger is the fuel for all revolutions. You know why witchcraft is so popular today? Because people were pissed off at Christianity. Light and love has it’s place in the spiritual world, but it’s not the only way or the best. This is a time for anger.Those of us who are strong enough have a responsibility to bear witness to those stories never before heard.
Cast your circle around the truth-tellers. Send them specific healing energy. Take the time to do more than saying “healing sent.” Stand with them. Don’t overwhelm them with words or resources. Love bombing is toxic. Check in with yourself before rushing in with a million solutions. Work to know and strengthen your boundaries, shield when necessary. Remember that being open is a sign of strength. Trust that others are speaking their truth and have confidence in your ability to heal.
So much of what we hear and share these days occurs on social media. It’s far too easy to avoid these courageous acts of truth claiming. Yes, it’s upsetting. Avoiding it isn’t going to make it any better for you or the person trying to claim their power. That’s what #metoo is about. Taking back the power that was stolen from us. The witchcraft movement occurring right now rides the same energy current. This is not a coincidence, nor is the return of Hekate as a powerful and popular goddess.
This is a revolution. We are the trauma warriors.
If you get upset by truth-telling, you have my unconditional understanding. I urge you to let that trigger become your power. Take your rage and transform it into fierce love. Everyone has the right to be heard. I struggle to understand why anyone would want to silence another warrior’s brave sharing of personal pain. Haven’t we been silent long enough – as witches and as the traumatized?
Healing is an ongoing process. If you are feeling overwhelmed by the truth-telling, ask yourself if this is really what’s going on or are you using avoidance? That shadow self wants us to turn away. We know better.
Being triggered is good. Rage is required. Healing begins with anger. Truth-telling is the revolution.
Some of my healing articles:
Healing with Hekate’s Modern Witchcraft: Concepts, Practices, Techniques, Spells and Correspondences