Different

Differences are exciting and bring a sense of getting to enjoy something we don’t possess. But differences threaten us if we have not matured enough to be truly separate people from each other. To immature people, differences imply distance, a lack of love, abandonment, rejection, or, in some cases, a challenge for us to grow. And under this threat, love gets put on the back burner for self-protection.

–Boundaries in Marriage, p. 100