Opinion for “My husband is homosexual.”

At the risk of sticking my nose where it doesn’t belong, I would venture that the REAL problem is how this couple is shutting each other out, and that the homosexuality and pornography are trivial in comparison. Things can work out with the first two, but not with actively shutting each other out.

His attractions are not sin, per se. Don’t panic and stress – focus on the basics of both of you, coming to Christ.

Yes, I agree that the underlying issue that is causing the biggest problem is how the couple is choosing to communicate. However, I wouldn’t necessarily call the issues “trivial in comparison.” Because the issues in question can seem so incredibly daunting, confusing and are taboo in general then the communication around them is easily compromised.
I also agree strongly that this man’s attractions are not a sin. There is no “choice” when it comes to how we become aroused. Our arousal is a complex mechanism that has to do with how our brain is wired. And our brain is wired through a complicated mesh of signals that are connected to our DNA, environmental triggers, our personalities, hormones, etc., etc. Where sin comes into the picture is when behavior turns sinful. And behavior can include unchecked thoughts and fantasies.
One of the largest dangers of pornography is that it can have a similar effect as an addictive drug. Once you have those images in your “wired brain” it can get to the point where only those images can bring you to the point of climax. Or worse, you need even more direct or crass images to achieve the same result. Addiction in essence changes the wiring and signals of the brain. Therefore, a recovery from porn addiction is difficult and usually a slow process. It involves rewiring the brain and your arousal template. It is possible, just difficult.