What about the money?

I have a question concerning the money. If the husband is not living at home why should he be giving the whole paycheck? What he said (let him come home to get the money) was wrong but he needs money and has to support himself as well.

Yes, of course he should have money to meet his own needs. My concern was more around the sense he was trying to use money as a manipulation tool to get his wife to agree on his coming home. Any time there is a separation of this type, the couple needs to have a very open and frank conversation regarding their finances and how they plan to move forward until a more permanent plan is put in place. Unfortunately, because of fear, revenge, anger, etc. many at this type of juncture act in inappropriate ways in regards to disclosure of usage of funds (i.e. close accounts, take monies out of accounts, open new accounts, rack up debt, etc.).