Sexual Pleasure and Hell too Closely Correlated

Sexual Pleasure and Hell too Closely Correlated July 19, 2019

Some notes I took during the recent AASECT conference I attended:

I’m going to fail but I’m going to try to capture some of what Kate Bornstein presented on today in regards to gender construct. They said so much that struck profound. But this in particular spoke to me with the populations I tend to work with.

“In most religious cannons, anything that helps with having fun and being creative with your gender and sexuality…. will land you in hell.” Sadly true in my experience for sure.
They also said… “We need to embrace ethical values that transcend moral morality.”
And spoke about “definitive truths” (very few) versus “arguable truths” (take longer to describe and are subject to ongoing change).
Loved every word. Looking at our own belief constructs critically and flexibly, especially when backed by religious dogma that is set in “traditions” of old… is a very difficult thing to do. And yet it is part of ethical morality… if we are truly going to be serious about trying to do anything close to the sort of speaking in God’s behalf… which is what so many of us think we have the right to do. While in the process… often hurting many in the wakes.
#aasect19 #letthebodyrejoice #KateBornstein


Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFT, CST can be reached at and runs an online practice, Symmetry Solutions, which focuses on helping families and individuals with faith concerns, sexuality and mental health. She hosts the Mormon Mental Health and Mormon Sex Info Podcasts, is the current past president of the Mormon Mental Health Association and runs a sex education program, Sex Talk with Natasha. She has over 20 years of experience working with primarily an LDS/Mormon clientele.

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