I am a faithful and active member of the LDS church. In my teens I brushed with a form of textual pornography. I worked through it with my bishop when I was 17 and never went back to it since. I over-corrected myself. I found the love of my life six months ago. We got engaged last month. And I’ve been more affectionate with him than anyone. We’ve napped together, cuddled horizontally, pushed each other against walls/counters when kissing, kiss... Read more
Wonderful podcast over at Mormon Matters regarding addiction recovery. Highly recommend for addicts and/or family/friends of addicts.Spiritual Secrets of Addiction Read more
I am currently suffering from premature ejaculation, a problem which is negatively impacting my sexual relationship with my wife. I wish I was a “minute-man” — I’m more like a “30-second-man”! I’ve been prescribed Paxil, which has helped, but I don’t like the way SSRIs make me feel, and I’d rather not become dependent on them for sexual function. At the very least, I’d like to start incorporating other techniques such as kegel exercises and edging in addition to medication... Read more
Please take time to fill out the new poll on my sidelines about teachings regarding masturbation. Thank you! Read more
I have a question about my son having a hard time not taking long showers and he says he has looked at porn. He has been working with our bishop but how do I confront him about the showering (obviously I fear he is also masturbating).If you can help me I would appreciate it. I live in the middle of nowhere and so don’t have much support. To be perfectly honest, I’m not a big proponent of making a big... Read more
The following poem is written (and published with permission) by one of my clients who is working through many difficult issues: severe childhood sexual abuse, domestic violence and infidelity during a brief marriage, raising a child as a single mother, depression, social anxiety, chronic pain and obesity. We have been exploring her relationship with her body. I asked her to look herself in the mirror while nude and honestly assess how she sees herself – what she says to herself. ... Read more
Important information on how to handle problems with compulsivity around pornography viewing. The more negative thoughts, the harder we are on ourselves – the less likely this problem will be solved. Instead we are finding that self-compassion, an acceptance of temptation being a normal part of life, and the ability to tolerate anxiety (instead of desperately trying to rid oneself of it) can be extremely useful tools. Watching Porn: The Problem that must not be Named Read more
Can Gary Chapman Save your Marriage? Read more
I found all kinds of interesting tidbits of information in these articles I believe would be useful to the LDS population. Utah, unfortunately, is currently ranked highest as the state for people having suicidal thoughts. There is no scientific correlation made to Mormonism but I know many who read these results assume there is. More research needs to be done in this area. I find my clients usually have a lot of misinformation about antidepressants and how they work. Often,... Read more
My husband and I just recently had our second child, a son. We were planning on circumcising him as my husband is circumcised but as we got closer to actually going through with it my husband and I felt uneasy about it, did some research and decided that we are not going to circumcise our son. Well, my mother-in-law sent us an email expressing her concern about our decision based on the fact that our son will have to clean... Read more
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