I have been married for over 10 years & love my wife. I am happy with my wife. I feel sure that she feels happy with me. We have two great kids, still young enough that one sleeps with us some. We both work hard as parents, with church callings and in our professional lives. We rarely have sex more than once or twice a week. My wife enjoys sex at times, but has little interest most of the time.... Read more
Washington Post article on The Marriage Myth: Why do so many Couples Divorce? Read more
Wonderful talk on research and importance of all types of play in our lives. It can help our work lives, our sex lives, our family lives, our parenting styles, our creativity and imagination, issues with depression, anxiety, trust, etc. Worthwhile 30 minutes of your life. :)Stuart Brown: Why Play is Vital – YouTube Read more
To me, a celibate marriage would never fly (unless it were due to medical reasons). My love language is primarily “physical touch”. Withhold the sexual relationship from me and I would feel rejected. I would eventually look elsewhere for a companion that really loved me in every way. Don’t get me wrong, I would not just walk out without trying to resolve the issues via counseling. But if my wife were unwilling to try to change, to over come her... Read more
I just recently did an interview with John Dehlin on Mormon Stories.I will be partnering with him in the near future conducting podcast interviews surrounding issues regarding mental health.Please let me know what types of topics you would be interested in hearing more about. Read more
The “open and honest sit down” is done. Has been done for a few months now. No changes, in fact getting worse. I’m about ready to move out of the bedroom, but I wonder what message that will send our children? Will they even notice that dad is sleeping on the couch and has more or less a business relationship with their mother? First off, I am very proud of you! I am glad you chose to have an open... Read more
I would be interested to know why I feel compelled to cut or hurt my arms. I have heard of people cutting their legs or stomach, but I only have compulsions to cut my arms. Is there anything behind which body part?Also, is cutting different than wanting to die or commit suicide? Yes, cutting and other types of self-injury behavior (i.e. burning, scratching, hair pulling, etc.) is different than suicidal ideation. Self-injury falls under, believe it or not, the category... Read more
“There came a time when the risk to remain tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”Anais Nin “Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities have crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day. You shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense.”Emerson Read more
“Take a long cold shower” my Bishop encouraged, “You’ll make it son, and you’ll be glad you did.” My fiancé and I were in his office confessing and seeking counsel for the kind of petting that some LDS teens get involved in during high school. He gave us good counsel, we got our passions under control, and a few months later were married in the Temple. It didn’t occur to me that his advice would be far more useful during... Read more
So according to the poll you did regarding masturbation with 177 respondents that divided the men and the women, 95% of men have masturbated and 84.4% of women have masturbated. That’s a pretty high rate. It is a high rate and it falls in line with national and international rates of masturbation. Usually studies show men coming in somewhere in the 90th percentiles and women coming in somewhere in the 70th percentiles. Now, my poll is not an official one... Read more
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