Answering RD

I was going to answer them all together, but these were a little bit more serious, so I’m am going to treat them accordingly.

What is your answer to people when they say, “How many children are you going to have?”

I have several answers to this one, so here are my favorites:
1. I have no idea. I’m still married, he’s still hot, and we’re still Catholic.
2. We didn’t plan any of the others, and look how well that’s turned out, so why start now?
3. As many as God sends.
4. Why, do you want to buy one? I’ll make you a deal.
5. Turn to my dear husband and say, “Computer Guy (no, it’s not his real name), X wants to know if we’re having sex again. What should I tell her?”

And ‘if’ (don’t know if you’ve experienced this), someone starts to talk about how they did IVF or about their IVF children, do you stay silent and listen, or say something about how you disagree with IVF?

It honestly depends upon the situation and how well I know the speaker. If we’re at the baby shower, then obviously no. It’s just not an appropriate moment. If they’re already pregnant, same thing unless I know them well.

However, if someone asks my opinion, like “So-and-so is using IVF, isn’t it exciting?” Then I answer truthfully but gently. Gentle goes a long way. Also, make sure you are well schooled on the reason why you are not in favor of it. Most people who do IVF turn off their ears the moment they hear the phrases “In my Church we teach..” or “The Bible says…” While your teaching may be correct, they won’t hear it. Have a secular discussion on morality with them and then lead it to God if you can. If not, then just explain the moral reasoning. That’s how I do it, and it has worked for me.

Great blog, look fwd to visiting more often:)
Regina

Thanks! I popped over to yours and I like what I see! If anyone else want to see it, here it is.

I love your name. When I was a girl, “Regina” was always my name when I played make-believe with my friends. I think it was because I secretly wanted to be the queen. Alright, I know it was, and it wasn’t such a secret.