That time you were so busy, you forgot you wrote that book

That time you were so busy, you forgot you wrote that book December 18, 2014

Well, one chapter of it, anyway.

This is so dang stupid. Right before supper, FedEx delivers a box of ten copies of Catholic and Married: Leaning Into Love , which looks good, but I have never heard of it, and I certainly didn’t order ten copies. So I fire off a note to the publisher, saying that I think I got the author’s shipment by mistake, and what should I do with them? Ha ha, I says to myself, I’m not the only one who flakes out from time to time! They don’t even know who wrote their own book! Ha ha, it is to laugh!

So then Laraine posts this picture to Facebook:



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. . . and I suddenly remember, Oh yeah, I did write a chapter of that! Duh. Boy, life is so exciting and unpredictable when you have no long term memory whatsoever. I can remember what we had for supper a few hours ago, but mainly because the kids did such a lousy job sweeping that a lot if it is still on the floor, looking at me. (Tacos.)

Oh, so that’s what  my chapter is about (apparently): children. It’s called “Mirrors Around a Flame: The Gift of Children.” I forget whether or not it was a taco night when I wrote it. Anyway, it’s a good title, whoever wrote it.

Other than ridiculously flaky me, this book includes a fantastic line up of authors! Here is the table of contents:

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Here is the description from OSV:

“And they lived happily ever after.” Only in fairy tales, you say. But there is life after the honeymoon-messy, challenging, happily-married life. That’s the great promise of Catholic marriage, and if you’re married or considering marriage the joy is there for you, too.

Many Catholics today share the culture’s unease-fear of divorce, the prevalence of cohabitation, the wounds of past relationships all conspire to make til-death-do-us-part seem like a risky proposition. But the authors of Catholic and Married all agree, marriage is the adventure of a lifetime.

In these sometimes funny, tell-it-like-it-is chapters, this diverse group of men and women offer you their insights and advice on:

  • Children – the gift that keeps on giving
  • Marrying young – objections and object lessons
  • Contraception – an honest discussion on a touchy subject
  • Parenting skills – it’s not rocket science (it just feels like it sometimes)
  • And much more!

These stories will encourage you to lean into love. Hold nothing back. And experience the Catholic marriage God intended for you.

I couldn’t be more delighted/astonished to be part of this great project!
P.S. I wrote that chapter before I was pregnant, so there is at least some chance that it makes sense, unlike this post.

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  • hahahahahahaha, best “hey I wrote a book” post ever.

    “Boy, life is so exciting and unpredictable when you have no long term memory whatsoever. ” <–spot on

    • anna lisa

      It was here I believe that I learned that half the brain comes out with each placenta. What a relief to finally have a scientific explanation!

      I keep getting scared about how much I can’t remember, but my husband says “nonsense! You remember everything I ever did that made you mad.”

      • anna lisa

        And I think I said that here already once before, but I can’t remember.

  • Sheila C.

    I wonder why they have a chapter on marrying young. So far as I know, marrying young isn’t a “Catholic thing” — I mean the Church doesn’t encourage it. And really, with the challenges of Catholic marriage in today’s world, I wouldn’t encourage anyone I knew to marry young …. even though I did and am quite happy.

    Anyway, congrats on the book! Maybe if I take a long enough nap the mail will come for me saying I finally published my novel, but forgot about it.

    • KL

      “Marrying young” is a phrase that’s totally contextual, though. Compared to many secular couples, particularly in upper-middle class or urban settings, Catholic couples do tend to marry much younger than average. My husband and I married several years ago when we were both 24, and we encountered significant pushback from well-meaning peers and mentors — even some priests! — who cautioned us against marrying “too young,” despite the fact that we were older than any of our (still-married) parents had been. In contrast, my non-Christian brother- and sister-in-law didn’t marry until they were both in their thirties, despite having been together and cohabiting for many years. The same is true for many of my non-observant or non-believing friends and acquaintances. Secular or not, the trend across Western societies is for marriage to get pushed later and later, but the Catholic emphasis upon abstinence outside of marriage and the objective good of procreation (which has an expiration date!) provides motivation for observant Catholic couples to take the plunge rather than putting off that level of commitment for years, sometimes decades.

    • wineinthewater

      These days, marrying young means marrying before 30.

  • booklover

    For once, I would just love to see a book like this include a chapter or two on living out a vocation to marriage when you having a perfect Catholic family isn’t a possibility for you. What about those couples who struggle with infertility? Or the spouses who want to remain faithful, but their husband/wife doesn’t and leaves them to suffer as a single parent?

    I’m sure there are good books out there specifically on these subjects, but as someone who struggles with infertility (and no children), it just makes me feel even lonelier and left out of the Catholic world when you can’t even find a book on marriage that really takes the time to acknowledge those struggles . . . you have to be left out once again, because it’s much more fun to talk about why couples shouldn’t contracept instead.