April 28 Flashback: OotGO

April 28 Flashback: OotGO April 28, 2022

From April 28, 2016, “Whoever tries to keep their life will lose it …“:

Smith is talking about the temptation to want to be seen as “One of the Good Ones,” and the insidious way that desire will trap us in our idea of our selves, of our identity, such that we’ll never be able to become anything other than that — someone trying to be perceived as good. And that’s not the same thing as actually being good, or becoming good, or even just becoming better.

We white liberal types fall into this trap all the time. Well … not so much fall as leap into it, tripping over ourselves to reassure people of color that we’re One of the Good Ones. This often leads to earnest but awkwardly cringe-worthy gestures that aren’t so much products of good intentions as they are desperate pleas to be perceived as having good intentions.

The same thing happens, of course, when we men seek to convince women that we’re One of the Good Ones. Or when we straight folks try to convince LGBT people that we’re OotGO. Or when we do this as Christians, or as Americans, etc.

I’m not sure I will ever have the time or the wisdom to list all of the ways this impulse leads us astray, but Mychal Denzel Smith points out one of the worst such ways: “it doesn’t allow for growth.” It can’t allow for growth because it cannot afford to acknowledge the continued necessity for growth. The desire to be seen as One of the Good Ones forces every other consideration aside, and once that becomes paramount, no flaw or finitude can be acknowledged lest this OotGO status come into question. And thus, in striving to be seen as well-intentioned, we cease to be well-intentioned.

Intentions do matter. No, having good intentions doesn’t “magically” erase the negative consequences of our actions or words, but intentions are always ethically significant. Yet this is the barb in this trap — the desperate insistence that others must perceive us having good intentions is not, itself, a good intention. It displaces and replaces whatever good intentions we may have had.

As Smith says, this makes us incapable of hearing or welcoming any critique. It makes us defensive at the very idea of critique — prickly and resentful toward those who might have the audacity to question the purity of our intentions. That path leads to the ugly and all-too-common phenomenon of the self-proclaimed “ally” who snarls and snaps when not rewarded with the cookies or gold stars he imagines he’s entitled to receive.

What I like most in Smith’s piece is his recognition that avoiding this trap, or freeing ourselves from it, requires us to “create new selves.” And what that means, first of all, is that we have to loosen our grip on the idea of ourselves that we so desperately wish to cling to — the idea that we are, already and unquestionably, One of the Good Ones.

Smith’s argument there calls to mind the words of Jesus in the Gospel of Luke: “Whoever tries to keep their life will lose it, and whoever loses their life will preserve it.” What Smith describes as “the desire to be seen and known” as One of the Good Ones becomes our identity, our self, our life. And the more we seek to keep that identity intact, the less able we will ever be to approach any real approximation of the goodness that this desire to be perceived as good distracts us from.

Whoever wants to save the perception that they are One of the Good Ones will lose it, but whoever loses their investment in that perception for the sake of something greater will find it.

Read the whole post here.

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