2022-05-15T19:21:08-04:00

During a recent couples counseling session, Tim, 38, spoke about how overwhelmed he feels when Samantha, 37, get upset with him and shares her frustrations. According to Samantha, he tunes her out and often retreats to another room or watches sports. Tim reflects: “I love Sam and want to make her happy but when she bombards me with intense feelings, it’s more than I can handle so I usually bail out. I do feel badly and we sometimes talk later,... Read more

2021-11-25T21:47:32-05:00

During our counseling session, Kayla, 35, reflected on her trust issues with her boyfriend, Tim, 38, who loves her deeply but is growing tired of her suspicious comments and can’t seem to reassure her enough. Kayla put it like this is: “I know Tim loves me but I’m always worried that the other shoe is going drop and he’ll leave me like my father did when I was ten. There was nothing I could do to stop him and he... Read more

2021-11-20T16:32:22-05:00

Think about it: when you’re in a good mood, you might give your partner the benefit of the doubt. It’s easy to show generosity when they make a mistake, even granting them forgiveness more readily. Let’s face it, our moods greatly affect our communication. If you are in a bad mood, you are more likely to perceive what our partner says negatively. This point is illustrated by Laura’s bad day and her negative interaction with Ron when she returns home... Read more

2021-11-13T16:01:35-05:00

During our couples counseling session, Alyssa, 53, spoke about the betrayal of her first husband that ended her divorce and the lingering effects of infidelity. Even though her second husband, Ethan, 57, has not given her reasons to lose faith in him, she finds herself being jealous and suspicious of his actions. Alyssa put it like this: “When Ethan doesn’t return my text or phone call right away, I track his location and automatically think the worst – that he’s... Read more

2021-11-07T09:39:42-05:00

One of my clients, Carolyn, a 35 year old accountant, has difficulty trusting Bob, 38, because her parents’ marriage ended due to infidelity and broken promises.  She started dating Bob after a brief courtship and often reacts with fear and suspicion when he gets home a little late or there’s even the slightest inconsistency in his story. If he receives a text or phone message from a female co-worker, she finds that jealousy rears its ugly head and she usually... Read more

2021-11-02T09:28:34-04:00

During a recent counseling session, Karen and Joshua, in their late thirties, spoke about their finances, and explained how their debt was causing stress in their relationship. Since they are both self-employed and were paid sporadically, it was easy for debt to build up and most of their discussions about money turned into arguments over the past few years. Married for over a decade and raising two children, they had drifted apart and the last thing they wanted to talk... Read more

2021-10-20T17:14:36-04:00

During a counseling session with Teresa, 46, and Jeff, 49, they described a negative pattern of relating that usually starts with Teresa demanding Jeff finish projects around their home or plan a vacation with her. In both cases, he feels pressured because he owns his own business and has difficulty taking time off from work. Teresa put it like this: “I try to be patient but it feels like our home and family life always come last since Jeff works... Read more

2021-11-02T09:26:14-04:00

During a recent couples counseling session, Kylie, 36,  spoke about her frustration with her husband, Tim, 35, who she feels distances himself emotionally and doesn’t show empathy when she’s upset very often. They’ve been married three years and she’s concerned that if she doesn’t feel closer to him, it will cause them to split up because she feels lonely in their marriage. Kylie reflects: “Tim is a good husband in many ways but he tends to go into a shell... Read more

2021-10-02T09:13:27-04:00

Molly was thirteen when her mom remarried and she now has two biological siblings and two step-siblings. When we met recently she shared her frustration about her stepdad, Kyle’s role in her life. Before her parents’ divorce, she only had to accept discipline from two parents and now she finds that both of her parents and her stepdad expect her to follow their directives and conform to their rules. Molly put it like this: “I don’t hate my my stepdad,... Read more

2021-11-02T11:27:58-04:00

Hi Terry, I’ve always been a worrier and at age 25 was diagnosed with GAD (Generalized Anxiety Disorder). My worries tend to be excessive and I  ruminate about all of the things that might go wrong in life. All of this anxiety makes it difficult for me to sleep some nights and I often wake up a couple of hours early and have trouble going back to sleep. Most of the time, I blame myself when something goes wrong and... Read more

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