women who dislike other women…

women who dislike other women… January 20, 2012

… Here’s a thing I’ve long suspected; women that make great claims against other women are just doing so in hopes of endearing themselves to men. The old joke is that nothing can bring two people together faster than hatred of a third person. I believe this is the secret intent of so many women who mock and dislike other women. Maybe the desire is to gain admittance into the typically exclusive inner man-circle and ultimately win their favor. You know, “She’s so much cooler/smarter/funnier than other girls. She’s just like one of us”.

I think they imagine being surrounded by men looks something like this…

Except straight eligible men don’t carry on romantic relationships with each other. So this approach backfires. Remember, Ashley Wilkes married Melanie not Scarlett, despite her convincing charm and beauty.

I asked a few fellows what they thought when they hear a lady make such statements against members of her own gender and they all agreed that what they really hear is, “I am difficult to get along with. I will not get along with your mother, your sisters, your aunts and cousins. Nor will I like your female co-workers. In fact, if you marry me I will make your life unnecessarily difficult because I can not get along with 51% of the population.”

Sounds absolutely charming, doesn’t it? No I suppose not. Here are some other things they also said;

“A women who doesn’t like women? That’s sound very self-loathing.”

“I suppose a women like that would think she is superior to other women. All other women are stupid, except her of course.”

“Women are supposed to be nurturing and provide emotional support. To me it sounds like that type of women would not be very patient or kind.”

“I don’t think I would try to set up any of my friends with a women like that either.”

Ouch! But yes, subconsciously this is what females are projecting when they claim to loathe women. I will be the first to admit that certain types of women irk me as well and can be hard to tolerate. Modern feminists come mind. Snooki too. Really though, those women are just a gross exaggeration of a specific stereotype. The same could be applied to men. ‘Metrosexual’ men who have bizarre preening habits like over-groomed eyebrows make me just as annoyed, if not deeply unsettled. Naturally, we are not going to like everyone we ever encounter through the course of lives but I’m inclined to think that women who say they dislike other women don’t genuinely mean it the same way it sounds. At least I sincerely hope not.

So unless you really truly hate all women; including nuns, nurses, and grandmothers, I would strongly caution females against making such self sabotaging statements. If you honestly have that much distaste for another person simply based on their gender you might have some serious deep-seated issues going on that need to be addressed by a professional.


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