January 12, 2018

Conflict is a good thing. It is the road to harmony and balance, paved with honesty and vulnerability. Conflict only becomes negative when we lose a grip on it. Unfortunately, this happens more times than not in today’s relationships, families, and culture. But it doesn’t have to be the case. The reason we have conflict is because we believe, feel, and see differently from one another. Not one of us is entirely right about all things and healthy conflict is… Read more

January 10, 2018

Sitting in Swaziland, a tiny country in Africa, surrounded by a group of extraordinary men, my heart was broken. I had watched these men do incredible things in the months prior. Caring for orphans in Ecuador. Building a church for widows in Mozambique. As we looked around at one another, shame and fear and frustration filling us with vulnerability, there was one foe we all had in common. Porn. Almost every man has struggled with pornography. It’s a liar and… Read more

January 8, 2018

When I signed up for The World Race, an eleven-country eleven-month mission trip around the world, I never imagined my first crisis of faith would have to do with leadership. I expected to see some heavy things around the globe. I expected to be challenged. But it was astonishing the way it happened so quickly and how many were in the struggle with me. We weren’t even out of the country yet. Sixty of us from all over the U.S…. Read more

January 5, 2018

It is the greatest retort we can launch at our spiritual institutions: I’m not being fed. This is our way of communicating dissatisfaction. But how much of our spiritual malnutrition is on us and how much is on the institutions serving us? One of the grave mistakes of leaders (individuals or organizations), is that we love to be depended on. It is maybe the greatest mistake leaders make. The grand task of a leader is to make himself unnecessary, to… Read more

January 3, 2018

I knew it would be sad. I knew it would be hard to talk about. I knew it would take some time to fully be OK again. What I didn’t see coming was the clarity our miscarriage would bring to my faith. I am thirty-five years old. My wife is thirty-four. We have no kids and have been trying to get pregnant for about a year. We learned we were pregnant in early December and, a couple weeks later, learned… Read more

January 2, 2018

All over the world, as part of the tradition of January 1st, people are resolving to do better, to be better. But it never seems to last, does it? There are very specific reasons our New Years pledges dissipate before the turn of Spring and at least four easy things we can do to turn the tide. 1) Why New Years Day is my favorite holiday. There are no presents, no big commercial firestorm. Just the promise of tomorrow. It… Read more

December 29, 2017

Earlier this week, my wife and I met a man named Kenneth. We met Kenny at a service project near the South Street Seaport. Kenny is retired and in his fifties. He participates in this project five days a week. Essentially, Kenny spends his days picking up leftover food from corporate cafeterias, bagel shops, universities, or restaurants (to name a few) and delivers it to homeless shelters, food banks, or ministries who provide food for kids whose families are in… Read more

December 27, 2017

There is an extraordinary leader in Peru who is doing great things with his team of missionaries. During a call recently, he told me that He did not feel like the Lord was present in their ministry. He said he had called out to God, invited Him into their space, but they were not getting any answers. Of course, the problem with asking God to show up is that He is already there. He is not shackled by our permission;… Read more

December 25, 2017

Our lives are a cash grab. And there is nothing more valuable than the currency of control. If we can determine the parameters, we believe, we can determine the outcomes. Control is the force-field we use to protect our fears. It is the cloud we use to carry our dreams and desires. The problem is that we cannot control all that much. And as things spiral away from our tiny power to contain, our emotions skyrocket and our ability to… Read more

December 22, 2017

Likely, when you think about the possibility of living in New York, you have one of two reactions: ‘Yes, please!’ or ‘No! Never.’ The frenzy of New York City has its plusses and its minuses. The pulse of the city is contagious. It makes you feel as if you are a part of something bigger than yourself. It shoots energy through your veins. On the other hand, it can zap you, overloading your energy. It can make you feel lost… Read more

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