3 Things to Do When You’re Disappointed By Your Spouse

1 When You’re Disappointed By Your Spouse Shaunti Feldhahn

Someone came to me upset with her husband. I mean, really upset. After months of exhausting overtime work and a busy sports season with the kids, they had a day free for some much-needed time for just the two of them. The kids were going to a sleepover with friends, so the day (and night—wink, wink) was clear!

Her husband Dave was going to help his friend with a move for a few hours, then they were going for a long bike ride (a special thing they hadn’t done in a while), then have dinner at their favorite restaurant. She was even planning on a special “dessert” at home (ahem, another thing they hadn’t done in a while!). But Dave’s friend had a crisis and the move ended up taking all day, so there went the bike ride. By the time he got home, he fell asleep for a nap and she couldn’t wake him up for dinner. After how much they needed this break, she was furious that he didn’t care enough to ensure they got it. I could practically see the steam coming out of her ears!

Has something like this ever happened to you? Wait… why do I even need to ask? Of course it has! Every single one of us has been very disappointed by our spouse from time to time. Thankfully, it doesn’t have to be the end of the story! Before you escalate an argument over a failed night out (or a vacation turned sour or “you said you’d pick up the kids today!”), try practicing these three things:

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