I’m re-reading Brideshead Revisited for the first time. I love re-reading a book for the first time. I think it’s even more enjoyable than the first read, because I can take my time instead of being swept up in the plot or this character or that and racing through to the end, dying to know what happens. When I first read Brideshead Revisited, I was primarily interested in the character of Julia Flyte and the love story between her and Charles Ryder. This time, it was Sebastian Flyte that captured me.
I‘m not actually sure why I was so taken with Julia on the first read. I can’t identify with her at all. There’s nothing in her personality or history or physical appearance that even remotely resonates with me. But Sebastian, I understand. In fact, I understand his character and plight better than I understand that of any other character in the book, and perhaps any other character I’ve ever read. And one of the things that so endears the book to me is the way Sebastian’s brothers and sisters talk about him. Sebastian, in case you haven’t read the book, is an absolutely enchanting young man with money, looks, and social graces in abundance whose prefers to be drunk rather than sober. He was raised by a very devout Catholic mother who doesn’t understand her son’s particular concupiscence at all, and whose desperate attempts to save him push him further and further away, eventually driving him out of the country entirely.
Sebastian’s descent into drunkenness is a primary theme in the beginning of the book, but gradually disappears into the background when he leaves the country and the main characters shift their attention to their own problems. Yet throughout the book, when his siblings speak of him, they always mention their belief that “God prefers drunkards to a lot of respectable people.” Charles Ryder, who narrates the story, was Sebastian’s closest friend at Oxford. As an agnostic, he is mystified by the Flyte family’s strange religion, generally responds with a lament that they have to bring God into everything. Charles is convinced that without Catholicism, Sebastian “would have had the chance to be a happy and healthy man.” The Flyte siblings don’t necessarily disagree with Charles about that. But their ultimate concern isn’t the state of his health or happiness.
At the end of the book, Charles learns from the Sebastian’s youngest sister Cordelia that he has settled at a monastery near Carthage, as a sort of grounds-keeper. She says, “I’ve seen others like him, and I believe they are very near and dear to God.” Charles laments his friend’s fate and tries to console himself with the thought that Sebastian doesn’t suffer, but Cordelia says,
“Oh, yes, I think he does. One can have no idea what the suffering may be, to be maimed as he is — no dignity, no power of will. No one is ever holy without suffering. It’s taken that form with him.”
I’ve long been at a loss when it comes to conversations about addiction. It seems like there are two schools of thought on drug addicts and alcoholics. One says that addicts made their miserable beds, so they might as well just go ahead and lie in them and leave everyone else in peace. The other says that addicts suffer from a disease, that they literally can’t choose not to drink or do drugs, and that they need to be treated and healed.
As my own addiction progressed, I can recall being aware that it was growing worse, pushing that knowledge aside, stuffing it away where I wouldn’t have to see it. I remember sometimes it was like a voice would shout out from inside of me, “you’re running out of chances! You have to say no this time!” and I would soothe it, saying, “next time, next time. There’s plenty of time to say no yet.” And then there came a day when I knew that I was lost, that my will to say no was gone, and that if some outside force did not intervene I would die in my addiction. That was a terrible knowledge. I begged God for help, and I can remember saying, and meaning, “no matter what it costs.” Almost immediately, I found myself being restrained and hemmed in by forces outside myself. First the Ogre, then my parents, then my friends, and finally my unborn child. It cost a lot, in the end, but God listened. He restored my dignity and will to me almost by force, by making it nearly impossible to pursue my addiction. I would never have been able to pull myself out of addiction, but in the end I was able to let myself to be pulled out by grace.
Sometimes I wonder why that doesn’t happen for all addicts, or at least more. I never met a single addict who didn’t reference “getting cleaned up” sometime in the future. They’re all looking for a way out, and miserable because they can’t find the will to pursue it. Maybe that’s why Cordelia thinks that “they are very near and dear to God.” Addicts don’t chase money or power, after all. They chase a feeling…happiness. Peace. God, in the end. Only they go about it in such a wrong way that all they find is misery and more misery, as they lose the very gifts that God has given them to seek him. Free will. Human dignity.
I wonder if Cordelia is right, if there can be a kind of holiness come out of suffering from an addiction. It seems seems contrary to faith, since drug and alcohol abuse are mortal sins, and yet it’s undeniable that one’s free will suffers greatly in the grips of an addiction. I wonder what that means about culpability, and what the anguish and remorse that many addicts feel even if they are unable to stop means to God. Sometimes I think addicts live in a type of perpetual penance, always making reparations for the sins they feel helpless to stop committing, living their lives out in an endless purgatory where they can never get free of their sin, no matter how much they suffer from it. At least, I know that’s how I felt when I was living it. And if I had died in that state, I probably wouldn’t have been surprised to end up in hell. But I don’t think I would have been surprised, either, to find myself weeping in God’s arms and hear him say, “this is what the blood of my Son was for. You’ve suffered enough.”