Diplomatic Goddess Archetype: The Controversial Rihanna’s Video

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Diplomatic Goddess Archetype: The Controversial Rihanna’s Video

Diplomatic Goddess Archetype defined by Goddess-guide.com expresses, The Diplomat is able to mediate between different groups as they able to quickly assess the situation, understanding both sides point of view and is able to help them find a middle ground upon which they can both agree. Shadow Diplomat manipulates both sides to achieve their own personal agenda.This definition is to forewarn you that I will be tapping into both aspects: the dark and the light for this piece. Yes, including my own personal agenda.

I understand both sides of the argument regarding the artistic expression of Rihanna’s music video that shows in the beginning of a man, a rapist, being shot by Rihanna, the victim of rape. Vigilantism is somewhat frowned upon our society. There are laws on the books that express condemnation of such actions. Although the music video doesn’t express the condemnation: Rihanna’s lyrics do with lines such as, “Cause now I am a criminal, criminal, criminal. Oh lord have mercy! Now I am a criminal. Tell the judge please give me minimal” In Haitian mythos, along with many other mythos, there is stories in which the victim murders her rapist and is punished for such actions via death or a symbolism of death. We see this in the most popular story regarding the “changing” of Medusa (one of her many mythos). Medusa, once a beautiful woman, raped by a God who didn’t take matters into her own hand but nevertheless punished or blessed by remaining forever hideous in the eyes of other men.

That is what, I presume, the most initial feelings of being raped is. Feeling hideous, inside and out. Persecutions of rape victims is not easy for their lifestyle and character assassination goes into play. Take for instance the recent French MP accused rapist (using accused for he hasn’t been found guilty in trial, as of yet) Dominique Strauss Kahn. I’ve heard many reports that the victim was a “good woman” and “pure woman” and that he finally messed with the “wrong woman” As in his previous victims were not the “right women” for they had “questionable” lifestyles and/or character. Medusa’s beauty was in question. As if her physical beauty caused such brutal actions against her.

In Rihanna’s video we see in the beginning a sweet woman. Yet, she showed in her video that she also associates with “dark elements.” A man, in the beginning of her video, who is holding a gun and eying another man: “questionable association.” Then later in the nightclub she is dancing innocently with men but one can view it “provocative” (mind you, many West Indies and Latina American dances are seen “provocative” through foreigners eyes). She later told the man, as what it seems, that he has gone “too far.” Basically, Rihanna’s video showed the infamous “slut-culture.” The twisted ideology of “you asked for it. For you shouldn’t be dancing that way with him.” If Rihanna took the route of going into trial and individuals saw the video san the murderous outcome and the part where he followed her. Would he be found guilty? As in, take only the scene of Rihanna at the nightclub dancing: everything else is omitted. Many cases of he says, she says do come from such scenario. A woman dancing with a man at the nightclub, everyone sees she is dancing with him and possibly flirting. Yet, she stops and leaves. Most defense attorneys will focus on the fact they were dancing and they seemed “mutually flirting”  Most cases of such rapes, the accusers are found “non-guilty” For he, the rapist, would play the “consensual rough sex” Leaving such victims not only being raped by the rapist but also raped again.

Rihanna’s Lyrics: “What started out as a simply altercation. Turned into a real sticky situation. Me just thinking of the time that I am facing. Makes me want to cry”

Rihanna’s video and lyrics, if one is really interested in the overall meaning of what she is trying to convey via “art”, shows a woman who is remorseful. In the beginning after firing the shot you see her holding back her tears. Her facial expression mixed with anger and sadness. Her lyrics also display such mixed emotions, “I didn’t mean to end his life. I know it wasn’t right. I can’t even sleep at night. Can’t get it off my mind. ‘Cause I didn’t mean to hurt him. Could’ve been somebody’s son.” And she continues to stress the “unsatisfaction” of her actions, “I didn’t mean to lay him down. But it is too late to turn back now. Don’t know what I was thinking”

I believe the last lyric I posted is crucial for many people would like to see Rihanna’s character actions as premeditative. Yet, hearing, “I don’t know what I was thinking” and a woman who is a victim but remorseful for taking a life is troubling for many. Especially after Rihanna’s murderous scene we see “Yesterday morning” indicating that she reacted soon after she was raped. Victims of rape are often in a trance for days: some, even months. Yes, she knows that she is guilty of murder. She acknowledges that. At the same time, she acknowledges that prior to the murder—she wasn’t in her right mind. Similar to back in 1993 a mother, Ellie Nesler, murdered her son’s child molester in the courtroom. Yes, she reported the crime. Yes, she followed “society’s protocol” to report abuse and allow the laws decide. Yet, for a split moment something came over her and she killed the man. It is frightening for society to see women as 1. Defender of their own body 2. Defender of their own family 3. Murderous 4. Murderous with “understandable” reasoning for anytime a woman is murder/takes a life there is this notion of her suffering from some other psychological alignment. There is a fluidity that is confusing for many. Such as “women are emotional” and act upon emotions meets the “women can be rational” and both combination combines is simply “challenging” for some. A man who kills his daughter’s, wife, and/or love ones rapist and/or offender is typically viewed as “emotional break-down” Not too much “logical” but more towards the “emotional” Whereas when women do it…it just breaks any form of “typical reasoning” It becomes reversed—she is rational (she thought it out) but yet she also is reacting emotionally. The “how can someone react BOTH emotional and rationally” is threatening. We have this “either/or” rarely both.  Another challenge is that individuals can go from emotional to rational in nanoseconds/fluidity.

Looking into the mythos of Paganism many lore rarely revere the folklore of actual goddesses and mortal women who fight back. Similar to our society. We don’t want to deal with them. Law of karma will provide or law of land will provide for justice. Yet, like we know with law of land, many rapists don’t face jail time due to technicalities (improper handling of cases, evidence, and/or character assassination for an example). Prime example is the current trial on its way for Ohio man who is accused of raping, murdering and dismembering 11 women. Prior to being caught he was a known rapist and was in jail for it. In mythos many of the Gods who are known for raping women and Goddesses alike are revered (Poseidon, Zeus). While the lore’s of the women being raped is hardly mentioned. They are known for other things. As if we want to deny that their “victimization” didn’t happen. Yes, one can take from such lore’s that these women still gained strength and moved on (life after rape). Yet, at the same time the stories of women who have not found away to move on are rarely told nor are these individual women (mortal and goddesses) are rarely mentioned in name. When Hades took Persephone it is safe to say that she was initially raped, married her rapist, and found away to life with this. Like the mythos there were laws that if a man raped a woman and she conceived a child with the rapist… they are to marry. Such law existed in Haiti until the 90’s. Still going on today. Such laws prohibited women to even seek justice for the hideous crime. Women under such laws found another way to cope in silent.

Rihanna’s story/video is different than most and uniquely the first I’ve seen in all long time that address the issue. That there are a small percentage of rape victims that do seek vengeance. I understand those who are upset with the video showing vigilantism is “poor taste” and it can possible promote others to do the same. Yet, at the same time…we can’t deny that it does exist. That there is another side of rape that we don’t want to discuss. The side in which victims don’t recover even though justice is served. The side that addresses that victims of sexual abuse can become abusive (prime example is Aileen Wuornos who shot and killed 6 men in Florida and executed was a victim of rape as a child). That female victim of child sex abuse can become like their male counterpart who abuse other children. That when it comes to bloodshed and wars… women can be equally defined as their male counterpart. For every hideous action there is an opposite unknown reaction. It is the unknowing and unexpected that is the most frightening. Rihanna’s video is mixed messaged…fitting for the general topic of the overall general topic of rape. There is not one size fits all answer of moral ground and moral responsibilities. Each case is “uniquely” different and understandable…justifiable when it comes to autonomy vs. law of the land is a different matter.

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  • http://heathenfaith.blogspot.com/ NorseAlchemist

    Well, I think you have some interesting points, both about rape in the mythos and in relation to Rihanna’s video/song.

    However, I think something can be gleaned from looking at the larger set of both mythos, and Rihanna’s own work.

    To start off with Rihanna’s music at this point has become…complicated. In a word, misandrist. Just a few singles ago, she had a song that, to my ears, sounded basically to be her saying that the guy she was with was “ill-equipped,” taunting him about “getting it up,” “was he man enough,” and to “take it.”

    In a word, behavior that was highly insulting, misandrist, and in all likelihood, foolish.

    Now, are the two songs linked? It’s hard to say, they could be just some stand alone stories, but it’s equally likely that they could be a linked story, just as two separate stories in say the Greek Mythos are connected.

    I am well aware that my words sound bad, but you invoked both light and dark, and so too shall I, as well as invoking two sides to every story. Ever since the Rihanna/Chris Brown incident, people seem willing to give Rihanna the role of victim, and allow it to color their viewing of all things related.

    You mentioned how most rapists get away with their crime. This is true, from a certain point of view. However, just as often, a man accused of rape gets punished for it, regardless of actual guilt. I would like to mention the Duke Lacross case that tore up the news waves not too long ago. That group of young men were innocent, but everyone treated them as guilty and their lives were ruined over false accusations.

    You mentioned the whole he said/she said situation if we took out that one section of the video. One could look at it as Rihanna shot the man, and the video is her version of events, only now the man is dead and we can’t get his side of the story. He goes down as the rapist, and she goes down as the victim who got justice. And we never know the full story. No forensics, no investigation, just the word of a woman who killed, and a man who is dead. Now, it being Haiti, maybe they can bring him back and get his side, but that’s not going to hold up in court.

    I do not mean to make light of rape. It is a serious and horrible crime, one that my ancestors, the Norse, treated very, very, very harshly. Bad things happened to rapists, and rightly so. Yet, because the crime is so horrible, and the consequences are too, we should be very careful with how we proceed about such things.

    In regards to the mythos, with Hades raping Persephone, there is some debate on that. Did Hades kidnap and rape Persephone as we understand it, or was it a staged thing to get her away from her admittedly overbearing and controlling mother Demeter? By all the accounts I’ve read, Persephone is very, very happy as the wife of Hades and loves her Husband very much, and he too loves her equally, as he only strayed once, and afterwards swore never to do it again, unlike his two brothers.

    These are my humble thoughts.

    The Norse Alchemist

  • Nouvelle Noir Goddess

    @ Norse Alchemist: Thank you for sharing your thoughts! I would like to start off with this piece is strictly about the video and lyrics. I am not huge fan of neither Rihanna nor Hollywood gossip. I’ve heard of her domestic dispute with her former boyfriend (CNN, MSNBC also reported it). I never really sat down and digest any of her music prior to this video (quiet, frankly when I hear her voice, I switch the station). Since this was a huge controversy I did sat down to watch the video and READ her lyrics. This is not about her personal life as Rihanna the human being but Rihanna the artist. This is not about her other piece (which I will reiterate again, I don’t listen to her music. This piece is about this particular song).

    I must admit that I do understand what she is conveying. To be honest, to state that rape victims and their family and/or loved one NEVER thought about murdering the rapist is dishonest. This I know when my 8 year old cousin was kidnapped, brutally raped, and murdered by a 21 year old man. The taste of wanting to hurt him as he hurt her and us was all too real. Nevertheless we sought LEGAL justice and due to his crime he is sentenced 3 life sentence in jail without the possibility of parole. Mind you, this was his 1st ever legal offence. So, I can say that justice does work. I also can say that I, along with many family members, did think about murder but we allowed the law to seek our justice. Having thoughts is not “wrong” It is typically normal. Now, acting out is another thing. I never really thought about murdering anyone for I did thought myself to be a pacifist and/or logical and not ruled by emotion too much. Until the event personally happened to me. It became “surreal”

    On the other hand, I had friend whose daughter was raped by more than one person. She was also used as a human ashtray. The young child did not want to speak about it and name names. She also felt that she “deserved” it since she crept out of her house, while her parents where sleeping, to attend a youth party. They found the date rape drug in her system. Since none of the rapist DNA is in the system. They are free. She attended school with them (this is several years ago). Yet, she did seek counseling to overcome the nightmares and cease blaming herself. Which many victims do blame themselves AND family of victims (believe me, my entire family blamed ourselves in our heads over and over again for our 8 year old cousin/daughter/sister kidnapping which lead to her death). Back to my girlfriend’s daughter: she still kept the names without disclosing to anyone to this day. If that is how she felt would help her heal, so be it. I’m sure those boys (now men) will have the law catch up since their DNA is in the system.

    As for, “Now, it being Haiti, maybe they can bring him back and get his side, but that’s not going to hold up in court.” That is your exact words. With all due respect (and maybe you don’t realize it), you don’t have to be flippant (referring to zombies indirectly). Since the 2010 earthquake in Haiti MANY women and girls were raped and continue to be raped to this very day. The victims of such rape go in silence and live in the tent city with their rapist nearby (sharing near accommodations). There is no court like here in the U.S or other Industrialize nations. There is no legal justice. Just recently the new President of Haiti dispatched lawyers from all over the world to try to seek justice and implement effective laws to protect victims of rape and make sure their rapist is persecuted. Till then, Haiti is lawless when it comes to rape.

    In the Congo 48 rape takes place every hour, again—lawlessness. The victims remain silent. Yes, I wouldn’t be surprised that there are a minority of victims that do avenge their dignity and/or family. Rwanda is number 1 for the most women in government. Why? Because the earlier conflict and genocide killed majority of the men and now women must step up. One thing these women did first was to persecute their rapist and/or family rapist. That includes raping of their men. Yes, men are victims of rape (another topic that people don’t want to speak of).
    Another thing that I do find Rihanna’s video very interesting is that it takes place in the Caribbean and her opening you hear a males voice saying “Sak Passé” Which is Haitian Creole for “what’s up” I find this interesting to do the high volume of rape in Haiti and the lawlessness for rape victims. There are things that you could NEVER imagine, my dear Alchemist. I recall hearing a woman wailing to authorities in Haiti about how bandits broke into her home and asked one of her sons to have sex with her mother. When the son refused…they shot him. Then they held the gun to other son and asked him to have sex with his mother. The poor women, crying cried out to the son, “Just do it!” Begging him to do what these monsters say for she didn’t want to lose him. The law in Haiti? Did not even bother searching for these criminals. Therefore, please…. do not be “flippant” when it comes to Haiti, rape victims, and the law.
    With that being said, I do agree with you that there are innocent men and women who are accused of rape, as well. I, myself, detest false complaints and “crying wolf” I agree with you! 100%! Yet, these individuals who lie about being hurt are not of the actual “victims” Rihanna speaks of. They wouldn’t think of murder for their goal is only public humiliation. It is disheartening what happened to the Lacrosse players. Yet, I do recall when the news came out the accuser “professional life” came into question (being a stripper). That I have issues with, as well. For it is really irreverent. Nevertheless, the men were found not guilty. That is also not to say that there are actual valid cases where the men/women rapist was found not guilty either.
    Finally, I believe I did state many mythos of the Gods and Goddesses. Yes, there is mythos of Persephone and Hades mutually loving one another. Then there is mythos where she is not in love with him. There are lores that she was kidnapped and others that she is not. This piece is about the lore where she was kidnapped and what, overall, is our understanding of this lore? What should we learn from this? That is my point.
    I’ve been flabbergasted with flippant remarks by many individuals regarding rape. The latest one was Senator Pete Dagraff comparison with rape to changing a tire. What these individuals may not have is the ability to empathize and/or visualize if they were the rape victims. Yes, men can be raped victims. Likewise, with women who make flippant remarks. No, they may not kill (for like I said, I had the thought but never acted). Yet, to “respond” in a manner that it could be possible and “understandable” to have a fleeting thought of revenge is dishonest. Even if one don’t, to tell others that their thoughts should never form is cruel. In other words, “human to have the thoughts. Yet, don’t act upon it” for there is consequences to such actions. Which Rhianna did express the consequences in her lyrics: jail time, the feeling of guilt for taking a life, and it doesn’t change the fact that something brutal happened to you.

    Thank you for reading and sharing with me. I value exchanges in ideas, thoughts, emotions, and opinion. Blessings!